I work with a hostile coworker. Constantly micromanaging my every move, throws temper tantrums when I do anything independent. I normally ignore it, theres no higher up to speak with. I’ll be fired if i complain and i cant afford to figure something else out. The hurt stays with me despite prayer, working out meditation etc like people aren’t supposed to be treated like this but its the way our world is set up sometimes. Very triggering and what initially caused a relapse I recovered from. I need more manageable “tools” to emotionally handle being degraded no matter how “perfect” i try to do everything. If everything is right some fictional issue will be made up about me anyway.. what do you do to handle not being appreciated or seen or cared about when you work really hard and care ?
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You cannot do anything about how people act. What you can do he's not react. You need to pause and think about how you should respond. Remember, just because they're acting that way doesn't mean or give you the reason to act that way too
You definitely need to find a different job this person will definitely be ur downfall to use again hey it’s just a stupid job if u can’t complain to someone higher up the ladder then u need to get off that ladder before u slip and fall off that latter believe me ur life is more important then that dead end job u have where nobody cares for ur sobriety
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It’s not alignment if you are relapsing over it. What is best for you in the long run? Find a job while still working and tell them what caused you to leave without anger.
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Respecfully comfront the coworker. Be blunt and tell them to please stop micromaniging you. If the coworker get's abusive and extremly confrontational, threat them with police. Tell them to please not cross your bundries. Don't worry about an argument. It's better to settle this matter once and for all than to keep bieng tormented by this abusive toxic coworker. This litterly happend to me yesterday. My coworker was belittling me, I confronted the coworker and asked what whas thier problem? If they insult you, tell them, did you just insult me? Keep calm. Don't cry, shout or be rude or match thier level. If you get fired for standing up, it will be worth it. Hope this helps friend. "Remember, you have an army of friends, we love you". God bless.
Hey skye, my advice…start looking for a different job, or a transfer if you’re able to. Trying to confront someone who is in higher authority of you might make your work relationship more turbulent and chaotic. You are already doing everything you can to stay focused on your duties at work. Continue to show up and do your job and not react or respond to the toxic environment and behavior. Allow this to be a good opportunity to challenge yourself and your recovery, ❤️🩹 you got this!
Skye, you’re totally appreciated and cared for here! There are many sick people in the world. I try to transcend and have compassion for them. Most of the time I can. It may take a minute.
The old me, the not emotionally sober me would have physically crushed anyone that disrespected me in anyway. That only landed me in jail too many times.
Through the 12 steps multiple times I learned to transcend and choose my feelings. I choose much better now days.
I’m here if you want to talk or have any questions
Skye, I know what you are going through in my industry I deal with people like that all the time, find another job as soon as possible and keep focusing on you and your sobriety, your coworker probably hates life. I will suggest church and go to a meeting after work every day. If you ever need to vent let me know
When I was about 18 months sober, I left my work environment after being there for 20 years because coworkers were triggering my rage and I knew if the rage came out, I'd get a bottle. It was so hard but I left. Protect your peace and sobriety at all costs:pray:t4:
I wish god gives you peace soon!
Hang in there.