I'm almost at my 1 year sobriety date. I work the steps. I attend meetings. I have constant contact with my sponsor and network. I have everything I need. Yet sometimes I find myself down and not feeling happy. I'm coming up on 1 year. This should be the happiest time for me. What's wrong with me? What am I not doing?
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Maybe you are lonely. When I'm feeling low I try to find someone who I can get out and do something with and it usually takes the feeling away.Good luck and don't worry it will work out if you have faith.
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Proud of you for being real about this KeOndra growth feels heavy sometimes but it means you’re leveling up keep going
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Stay in the moment. Sobriety will not always be “happy” - it will ebb & flow. Give yourself the grace to grow with it
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Don’t be so hard on yourself find something’s that lift you up find something that you like to do I know it’s difficult at times in the beginning believe in yourself 
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Ok so obviously everyone’s sobriety journey is different, BUT atp it’s time to focus on REBUILDING you. New hobbies, music, crafts, music ETC. when I quit 8 mths ago things were different for me. I wasn’t just done, I was DONE DONE, never looked back. I don’t attend meetings, nor work any steps, no sponser no network. Just me and my fur baby!
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Maybe you’re a lot happier than you would be if you weren’t sober? You’re doing everything right, keep going! Your amount of clean time inspires me.
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Hmm. For me, aa was just the very first layer of my sobriety journey. Sobriety, i soon found out, was the very first layer to living a fulfilling and happy life.
I needed to discover myself; go do and try out new things, learn a new skill, etc. I soon found that it is not the skill or thing, or what have you that matters, but more so the perception of myself and how i felt for myself. I started to feel more capable with each thing i set out to accomplish. I began feeling worthy of many things, including deep affection. After I felt this light, it felt so good that i wanted others to feel it too. This takes time though, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly
Point is, sobriety is just part 1. It is just the opening line to your new book. "Im so and so, and i am sober. Heres what i found out about myself". The other parts are for you to discover, one day at a time.
Keep your head up, you got this 
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I was told when I start to have a hard time with sobriety, whatever it may be is because I'm in my head. At that point I need to reach out to someone else that is new to recovery.
This helps me how? First the endorphins that are released when helping someone else. That natural high is fantastic. Also when I help someone new, it gives me pause on reflection on how far I have come.
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I know how you feel I have 4 and a half years clean and sober sometimes I get those feelings and what I do is pray and ask god for guidance and leave everything to him and everything starts working out
Don’t trip, that’s just your ego/addiction wanting you back. Keep doing right actions. Meetings, step work, service and telling on ourselves is our medicine. You got this!
I’m here if you want to talk
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I went through this. I had a bit of time before, and I couldn’t remember feeling this way then. It was the holidays on top of that. I chalked it up to the stress of the season, and a few other things that were going on. I went to more meetings, I shared openly, sometimes I just stayed in bed. I’m SO happy I held on! I’m at 16 months now and these last few months have been so rewarding. I grew so much during that time. Keep doing what you’re doing, lean in on your HP, work those steps, look for the things that are blessings from issues that active addiction could never bring you. My sponsor recommended giving myself a year and decide what I wanted to do then. I’m going to keep going. I hope you do too!!
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