Im new here. But my life has literally fallen apart because of my drinking. My husband of 37 years left me 5 days ago. He couldn’t put up with my drinking anymore. Im hoping this group can help me get sober.
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So sorry to hear that....is there hope with abstinence he may return?
I feel so bad for you..you're making the right choice in quitting! Hopefully things work out...just stick to the sobriety and who knows what may happen.
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I’m sorry to hear that. We tend to destroy relationships in our addictions. Been there. “One day at a time” is all we can do. All we have to do each day is not drink. Sounds simple but the will be challenges. In treatment, we were told to do 3 things a day- don’t drink, go to meetings, and pray. Hang in there
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I'm sorry for your loss, Yvonne. I know your drinking wasn't to intentionally push him and any loved ones away. I invited unintended consequences in my life cause of my drinking and that ended up causing more harm than good.
Check out different programs and resources:
12 step
Smart recovery
Recovery Dharma
I also suggest detox and rehab as options because we don't want anything serious to happen to you medically.
You have options and most of all you have the capability to recover from addiction, to repair the relationship you have with yourself and the opportunity to repair that relationship with others. You are not alone in your struggle. 🫂
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Sorry for your loss and I can relate, but one thing that keeps me going is my sobriety, the loved ones may not be there now and I'm not certain on your circumstances, I lost my wife due to my drinking over 9 years ago and have only been sober for a little over 4 months, I still have my kids, my friends and I just recently got a new job so there's loses but in time there's gains one step at a time, one day at a time
Girl I feel your pain I am going through the same situation the only difference in my situation is drugs and drinking which I've been clean almost 5 yrs but still struggling but I'm here for u call me or text me my number is 9106168653
We're here to listen and support in whatever way we can!
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I'm happy you are here and sorry for your hard ships , with my addiction I had many many losses my husband of 25 yrs and my son and daughter as well. I have been in recovery for just over 30 days and I'm already seeing my life getting better., I'm so glad your here.
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Yvonne….. don’t walk but run to an in-person AA meeting daily or more.
•Ask.For.Help.
•Get a Big Book and beginning reading the first
164 pages.
Then….
•Find a good sponsor. Someone who has years of sobriety. Has a God in their life and can guide you through the 12 steps
•Begin working the steps with that sponsor. Should should meet at least weekly.
•Find a God of your understanding
•Pray and meditate daily
Longterm sobriety is available to each of us IF we do the work.
We destroy our family. We destroy relationships. You can heal. Surrender.
Best wishes. 
Surrender yourself to Yah(God) that's what I had to do. Talk to him and believe what you're saying will come to pass and it will. I stop drinking and drugging and have no cravings for either, 137 days clean and sober.
That’s heavy, and I’m really sorry you’re going through this right now. You took the first step and open the door, so others can support you.
Just try to stay in the moment, stay right here right now. Try not to think too far ahead. All you have to do is stay sober right now. Many of us can relate to those first shaky steps, but you’re not alone, we’re here to support you along the way.
My DM is always open.
Sorry to hear and you came to the right place
I am sorry for your situation my wife drinks but she doesn't have a problem like me I just drink to much I am on day 16 of sobriety she loves me way better than when im drinking you can only try for him and you I so wish you the best .