I'm really struggling on step 8 making the amends I've been stuck on it for 4 weeks now
The list? Or step 9 the amends to those in person wherever possible? What’s getting you stuck? Is it fear, or ego?
I looked at it like this. The amends is for me. Not the person. Yes I owed lots of apologies to people and needed to own up to several things but by trying to explain I found that most people understood when I let them know I was sick. Some didn’t and that’s okay. I couldn’t fault them for that, but the weight was lifted from my soul. I could walk away clean from it. Good luck man. It’s hard but necessary.
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Thanks I guess it's just going to that person to make the amends
That's all you can do. You can't control their reaction or reception. This is for you. Some people will respond favorably, some won't. All we can do is all we can do. I'm not looking forward to that step either, but it has to happen.
Yeah that can be tough. But trust me, it is worth it. Face your fears my man, you will feel relief. As long as you are being honest and truly trying to make it right, that’s all you can do.
Thank you