I'm really struggling right now. My partner and I ended our relationship because I used alcohol to numb my feelings and said some things I didn't really mean because of i didnt process my feelings properly. We still live together with our kids and I don't have anyone to talk to anymore. I just need someone to talk to, it feels like my only solution is to start drinking again so I don't keep having these feelings.
You can do it! I’m on day 1 again and proud I didn’t stop and get beer after a stressful day. We can learn to cope without it!
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We had a topic about this last night at my meeting… wrote I got sober, I said some hateful, visceral things to my wife. One day after some extremely nasty things, she was in the shower and ugly crying… loud ugly crying. When she got out of the shower I said more nasty things to her. I forgot about it… until about 3 months after getting sober… and wow did I feel like a complete piece of sh!t.
It took a while, and a lot of talking, and showing her I was serious about changing who I was, but eventually she put her wedding ring back on. I am not saying it will definitely happen that way for you, but all you can do is the best you can do. Picking up is NOT going to solve anything. It will make it worse. Keep going to meetings, dress up and show up for your partner. And give yourself some kindness. You are battling demons that normies can never even fathom. Keep your head up man.
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That's just the alcoholism seducing you with the notion that there is no hope and you might as well drink. I've had many breakups due to my drinking; only thing that absolutely destroys your opportunity for another chance with the mother of your children is to keep drinking. Your only shot is sobriety. Do everything in your power to abstain, go to meetings either in person or virtual; I recommend a medical detox if you are having withdrawals...it was one of the best decisions I ever made personally. Then, a 30 day rehab was also a great decision (I've detoxed four major times and this one is by far the strongest due to medical detox/30 day rehab. Message me if you need any details about the process as I am medical and freshly through the process on the patient side. Good luck my friend.
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Did you consider couples therapy? It may help being in a controlled environment where you can both be heard. If it's past that point getting involved in the sober community would seem like a good thing to do.
In my experience it's way better to go ahead and process the feelings sobrer, and make decisions on how to address the issues sober. You can grow close again of you're both willing to, and sobriety is way better.
Today was better, thank you for asking! I made it through the hard part. Before I downloaded this app, I would have given in, but even just being able to write it down somewhere is helpful.
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