I'm really struggling tonight with missing my kids I lost

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#1

I'm really struggling tonight with missing my kids I lost custody of them a few days before I got sober so every time I approach a milestone in recovery I get depressed.

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#2

Sorry :disappointed: The past can be very difficult to accept in early recovery. Try to forgive yourself. Addiction is a rough disease. Give yourself some grace. The truth is that every time you approach a milestone in recovery, you are one step closer to getting your kids back. Keep moving forward ODAAT

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#3

The past is the worse thing we have to face but you have to turn it into a positive and let it motivate you to stay clean and get your babies back

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#4

I know all to well the struggles with keeping a positive mind frame around the holiday with just getting sober or being sober I let losing my boys fuel my addiction for years in fact this is the first year I can say I am sober and I am struggling with it my self but I just focus on the task at hand and that's just staying sober not to use

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#5

I am sorry to hear that about your kids I lost mine in 2022 and they reunited them with me at the end of the year I almost lost them again when I relaped in 2024 do to a youtube video I know how you feel I will pray for you

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#6

Very relatable. For what it might be worth, looking back it was such a gift while I was going through and “punishing myself” for that which I lost, to learn toove myself.

I still find myself often in moments of self pity recognizing an opportunity to now only love who I am but use the time to try things I wouldn't have been able to otherwise

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#7

So turn into Mama Bear and fight to get them back. Don't look at that you lost then looks at you have to get them back and you're going to do whatever it takes to do that. Don't let this make you relapse. Stay sober and fight. They deserve you. I'm praying for you on this.

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#8

I wish I could edit that because my phone put words in there I didn't say LOL but I'm sure you can translate them

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#9

I lost my kids when they were young. Went 10 years without seeing them. As soon as as they were 18 they reached out to me. They are very much part of my life. Keep doing what your doing so when you do see them you are the best version of yourself :pray:t2:

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#10

Try looking at things in a positive light, everyone of those milestones is one step closer to getting your kids back.

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#11

But every milestone is one step closer to having your family together again ...so never give up on trusting the process you got this, keep your held high, and be proud of what you're doing

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#12

Hold your head up hie and keep fighting it's not easy save that money pay a great lawyer once ya have proving. Yourself there is only one way to go that's keep.coming up.we are hear for you to.lift your spirits you got this keep fighting I'm turning myself into a treatment s
I'm the am I'm. Not using but. I feel. So close to doing something I would regret im more than happy to repeat. The. Steps again to get away from the demons this time I'm staying in the 3 1/4 house after I'm done. You got this hold your head up fr

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#13

Pray.

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#14

Keep praying.

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#15

Sorry to hear.. just from past experience. From mine and my husband's. We had same experience with all his kids. Just a little heads up. I know it hurts right now hun. :heart: they do come back around.. might now be in full at first.. but they do​:heart::heart: my husband's youngest was 17 in job core when we finally was able to talk to her. His others we had to wait til they were out of adoption :sleepy:. Totally get your situation :broken_heart::100: feel your pain. I've been in his life for 19 years and his knew me as well. Sad.. situation..

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