I'm sorry to bring this up again friends but im very emotional right now. I just saw my girlfriend again since 4 days ago and I told her I have to step away from her unless she goes to treatment. She kept wanting to talk more about it with me but I couldn't talk to her anymore becausr I was angry and hurt that she wasn't going to go. I didn't want to hear any reasons from her because my mind is made up. She said she wants to do detox and go live with her mother and that really bothered me. She said her mother doesn't think I care about her and that hurts. I walked away with her stating how im so dramatic but I've said all I can say to her and I'm done spending time with her and only getting let down over and over. Fudge this is so hard to do.
Great job sharing Ronald 
it’s good to let it all out
It’s so, so awesome of you to set boundaries!!! Do you think doing a detox while living with her mother would help? Or was that just a lie? Please tell her to look up Annie Grace! She is the absolute best in the field of sobriety & she can help her (& YOU!) I borrowed her books from the library for free 
. The 1st one is called This Naked Mind. The 2nd one is called The Alcohol Experiment. She also has a podcast & answers reader’s questions on YouTube. If you feel that you really need it (or she needs it) then you can join Annie Grace’s paid program called The PATH, but it’s really not necessary for most people. I also downloaded her free app called This Naked Mind Companion app on my phone where you can find lots of support! Good job for sticking up for yourself & good luck!!!
Thank you for sharing Ronald. Does she want to get sober?
I’m sorry that I don’t live in Canada, but you can find my posts on the This Naked Mind Companion App
Thank you I would be all for your advice because I would do anything that would make her understand that I do love her,unfortunately I really don't think she would do that as she is still in denial thinking she can quit doing drugs her own way. We all know how that goes and I have to let her find out her own path. Thank you for your support Rebecca
Ronald your doing what is the best for you your ready to be the best person you can be and move on i know nothing about her or her mother but does her mother have a drink once in a while or is a drinker the only way your GF is gonna be able to detox from anything she has to remove all the bad that can be put in to her body I may sound like a real big a hole but it is time to move on and let her either suffer day to day being what she is or she is going to go in and get clean the ball is now in her court you move on and do what’s best and better for you
You know how it is . She wants to but doesn't want to do the work and she thinks we fight to much now so it won't get any better. Who knows all I know is it could only get better for her and my sanity.I am doing what I'm told in my program and I leave the rest to god. Like I said it just hurts me so much to walk away.
I agree it's just not what I was hoping for but God knows I'm not doing things my way anymore.I never want to go back to where I was again and I know I'm doing the right thing. Maybe someday she will call me and say she is in treatment only God knows.
It seems like you have been patient and done what you can but you can’t do the actual work for her, she need to want to do it for herself. I hope she does.
Annie Grace has a method called A.C.T which stands for Awareness, Clarity & Turn around which can be used for all problems in life including alcohol, but I agree with everyone else who say that she has to WANT it!!!. If she’s not ready, then you have no choice but to walk away. I’m sorry that you are hurting so much but it’s the only way. I’m sorry about all that you are going through but it’s the only way for you to protect yourself & your sanity…
I meant to say “including drugs”
Thank you for sharing. I’ve also found it challenging and difficult to prioritize my recovery and myself especially when it meant losing relationships and friendships. Good for you for taking care of yourself and doing what’s best for you no matter how painful it is.
Your right and I hope she does to even if we never get back together I still only want whats best for her
Thanks kris
Time will tell if she wants to clean up
Im finding out that venting here and listening to like minded people is helpful.thank you
Brother, grief is not linear. I had to let go of a woman for some similar reasons. And I truly did love her. But she truly did not love me and the hardest thing that I had to get over was the fact that I wasn’t being loved. And as soon as I started taking responsibility for that, it started getting easier. But I gotta tell you man it’s not linear. Grief is grief and you just gotta let it be the river you’re in. That’s the feeling we were all trying to suppress Man. That’s why we were going out. But that grief, that’s the gold man that’s the best part of life. And all the best parts of life come from it. You’re being in your own hero right now. And you’re showing her real love believe it or not maybe for the first time.. weep, brother you have permission.
Best thing I've been told
Yes it you have to guard your recovery. I learned real quick people places and things you have to figure out who you might have to let go. It’s hard finding new people will help I go to NA to be around people like me.