Im struggling so hard with my fear of going to meetings. I dont know if its the fear of the social aspect. In my current active alcoholism i’ve become so reclusive and i just cannot seem to shake the fear. But my options seem so limited as i’m not succeeding in staying sober. I dont know if anyone else can relate to this. Ive done online meetings which somehow just seem to make me more sad and uncomfortable. Meaning i dont necessarily leave the meeting feeling filled with hope. May e that will change when i can actually piece together my life with sobriety. Im nust feeling very sad and worried that i wont succeed in getting and staying sober again.
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Go to in person meetings. Nothing is better than face to face with fellow peers and you’ll know you’re not alone 
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Every journey in recovery has its ups and downs . May I suggest doing some research till u find some meetings u like .in my experience early morning meetings are a great way to start the day and the generally have very small group sizes.
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Fear is the lack of faith! When you truly want to make a choice to surrender and work the program, 1 minute at a time and not more than 1 day at a time! And remember the 1st word of the 1st step, WE! We don't have to do it alone!
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We’ve all been there. It’s part of the disease of alcoholism. I had soooo much social anxiety about going to meetings and i’m a pretty outgoing person. It takes a lot of guts to be uncomfortable and vulnerable, it’s worth the rewards of aa fellowship.
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I completely feel the fear of in person meetings. For me my fear stems from meeting people who were also not strong in their recovery and then going back out with them and getting high. Or people who are not sober would hand out drugs at meetings. Go to AA meetings never NA. I am taking baby steps with my groups. I’ve been doing virtual NA meetings only. It only takes one person to relate. When you hear them talk it’ll just start clicking in your head. It may take some time for you to find the right share but so many people can relate to what you have gone through. The meetings can really make it feel like you’re not alone. You just need to find the right group of people.
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I, too, was thinking that an early morning meeting might be better. I have crazy anxiety and I try to push through it, but maybe a good start to the day is the answer.
In person meetings are awesome. I was nervous the 1st time (years ago). But everyone is so welcoming and it FEELS GREAT to finally meet people that understand what your going through.
I didn't take it seriously enough years ago. But now im back in recovery and using alot of tools I learned then. Then I use zoom meetings and apps like this one to make it 1 day at a time.
When I first started my journey, I was so broken that I used this as a litmus. If it was scary, uncomfortable, or different, its what I did. My "good comfortable" ideas were getting me drunk and dying.
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I still don't really enjoy meetings that much 10 years in. I go because I know it's good for my mental health especially since I'm not very social. I gotta take care of my mental health in soberiety
Hang in there because it only gets better if we do. I use not share in meetings because I didn’t want someone to think what I said was stupid or something. This is pride and ego. I don’t care what you think of me today. Shop around for a meeting that you can relate to. My two cents
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I'm sorry 
to hear that. All I can think to say is just do it just go and hopefully through God's grace you may find a sincere friend that's continuously roots 
you on. Slowly making it easier for you to attend meetings. It's so worth it in the end! 
Your comments and posts are nice and worth reading. I do enjoy them and would love to be friends with you so that we can share thoughts and get to know each other, if possible and if you don't mind you can send me a friend request thank you so we can get to know each other. Thank you:pray:t4:
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Where are you from? Maybe someone here on Loosid could go to a meeting with you?
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You came to friends here about this. You are not alone. I am also very new here