I'm struggling to be honest with the ones I should be other than my sponsor. I'm giving my energy to the wrong people and confiding I'm them. I'm struggling to mourn a life that once was while trying to build a life I want moving forward, and it's keeping me stagnant. Im finally starting to feel better internally, and now I'm hyper focusing on myself externally. It's exhausting, and I want to quit the thoughts. The only way I've known how to do that in the past is by using and I don't want to got there anymore.
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Wow... Never thought I'd relate to someone so much right now! I understand the struggle, and I try to focus on the horizon 
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F you have one foot in yesterday and one in tomorrow. You're likely going to leave a mess all over today. I'm not sure why I'm stuck with me, but being present I'm the moment is really hard. I'm glad someone gets it!
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Trying to not live in the past or future trip too much but its hard sometimes
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It can definitely be difficult. I have to remind myself that all I have is right now. Tomorrow isn't promised, yesterday is history... Today is a gift, so try to cherish every moment... Of course, this isn't always reality. So, when I don't get it right, I give myself some grace
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Hang tight, today is the only day we can make decisions in, and hope to set the stage for today when it is tomorrow.
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It is definitely a struggle. I will purposely change my thoughts. I will even tell my brain to stop. Some times I have to do it many time. When you notice you are having those thoughts find something to do that takes focus. I play Mario Kart on my phone. It does get easy. I will often use a small repetitive prayer for whatever or whoever I am thinking about. Hold your head high and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You got this.
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Thanks I appreciate that I've been reciting the Serenity Prayer so much lately. It seems to help when I break it down. But I get so focused on what was and what is to come it sucks and how good life has been before
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Bro this stuff takes time. 5 years later I’m still trying to figure it out. You just have to wrap your head around this-it’s a better life, not a perfect life. We are still going to have our questioning thoughts. It’s doesn’t go away overnight. That’s why we used, it helped instantly, thus stuff takes time and a serious comprehension of the fact that most of what we think is wrong. We overcomplicate, instead of seeing the grace and the blessing that we are even on this app trying. I should be dead or locked, the change within comes when we realize everything is going to change. Keep your head up, focus on what’s right, there is always going to be something wrong 
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I've been coming around NA for 8 years now and it's barely starting to stick. Thanks for reaching out I have to be reminded from time to time. To be right sized and remember where I'm at. The journey inward sounds so scary but living to die and dying to live is even scarier
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We should remember the past but realize it's over and it doesn't define us as we move forward. It's part of our inventory and we need to think deeply on it and acknowledge the hurt it has caused, both to ourselves and others. Only then, by continuing on and making amends, trying to change for the better, do we learn how to let go of that past.
Steps 4 & 5
It's everyday work and it needs to be done. We will continue to make mistakes because we're human, but hopefully we learn not to constantly repeat the same missteps over and over.
Step 10
Hang in there and hang out here.
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I must admit that I still face significant struggles in this area. However, I have been actively working on it. Despite my desire to be honest and understanding, I find it incredibly challenging. Even when I am fully aware that my lack of honesty will result in severe consequences, I still struggle with it.
Nevertheless, I can share some strategies that have proven helpful to me. Journaling and meditation have been the most effective techniques I've discovered to cultivate self-awareness and overcome my fear of introspection. By being honest with myself, I can then find the right way to be truthful with others, including my peers.
During difficult times, I make an effort to confide in individuals who will support me and hold me accountable, even though this often requires being uncomfortably honest (which I dislike).
It's important to recognize that this process is a continuous learning experience. I prioritize self-respect and self-love so that I can accept the consequences of my actions and establish a healthy structure and routine that guides me forward, particularly in the areas we are discussing now.
But the fact that you are here openly discussing this topic, you are demonstrating your ability and understanding of how to approach it, indicating that you have insight into the necessary steps to make it happen!! You got this and I’m proud of you!! 
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