I'm tired and sleep doesn't help

I’ve been trying to stay strong through all of this, but I’m not going to lie—I feel like I’m getting really close to breaking under the stress.

I chose to come to treatment on my own because I wanted to do better and build a real life for myself. But now I’m stuck in a situation I didn’t expect, and I can’t even leave because my PO won’t let me switch programs. So I feel trapped.

Everything here is unpredictable. There’s no real schedule, groups get changed around, and it’s causing me to miss work. You know how hard I’ve been trying to keep my job and get my life together—this is putting all of that at risk, and it’s scary.

It feels like I don’t have control over anything. We have to ask for passes 48 hours ahead of time and they can still say no. After group it feels like lockdown. I don’t feel like I’m actually living, just existing under rules I can’t plan around.

Group itself hasn’t even been helpful. It’s the same topics over and over, and instead of being taught I’m expected to teach. One of the facilitators has been singling me out, saying I have “bad energy” without explaining it. I participate, I answer questions, I do what I’m supposed to, and I still got kicked out of group twice.

Meanwhile other people can do whatever and nothing happens. It makes me feel targeted, like no matter what I do it’s not enough.

I filed a grievance because I felt like I had to stand up for myself, and since then things have gotten worse. I’ve been asking for things in writing—basic things—and they refuse or only say things verbally. Then they change what they said. It makes me feel like I have no protection and no proof of anything.

There have also been some really serious things that happened here. The unsafe driver was fired, but someone named Kelvin died from a heart attack, and that shook me. There have been times staff didn’t answer when police showed up. The whole environment just doesn’t feel stable.

Now they’re saying I might not even get a completion certificate, just a letter, even though that’s not what they told me before.

I have screenshots, emails, everything documented. I’ve been trying to handle this the right way, stay respectful, and just finish so I can move forward.

But I’m exhausted. Mentally and emotionally. I feel like I’m constantly on edge, like one wrong move and everything I’ve worked for could be taken from me.

I’m still fighting. I’m not giving up. But right now… I’m really overwhelmed and I just needed someone who knows me to understand what I’m going through.

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Please stay strong. Your HP has your back. It's a struggle at stage but you're doing this for the right reasons. You're obviously stronger than you think. Just remember to breathe right. Good on you for reaching out. The strength of our struggles is always lessened when we share them with one another. Keep fighting the good fight because it is worth it in the end. I remembered all the struggles I faced when I first started my journey. I just wanted to say thank you for reminding me where I started. And I just really wanted to send you some hope and encouragement.

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I know you said your PO won't let you switch programs, but have you shared all of this with them?

Thank you I've been sitting in my room just crying. I really feel like I'm going crazy or I'm going to break

I'm honestly scared to. There is history there. I tried emailing her and she told me to call her so I did and she said to have my case manager call her but with the way things are going I honestly don't want my case manager to call her. She also made the comment that maybe I should go back to the town I was using the most in if this place didn't work out. Which means I'd lose my job and everything

Tabby, I feel you! You can get through this and you will. I know it’s not easy, and I feel your pain and frustration. The great news is that you will never have to go through this again if you stay clean. You will come out stronger and better. You will protect your sobriety and independence.
True sobriety is freedom from dependence! Hang in there and know you will get through this. The 12 steps helped me tremendously.
I’m here if you need to talk or have any questions.
I’m praying for you :pray:

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I'm just very stressed out. I cried for hours last night. I was told that the meetings I go to on a regular basis don't count and that I have to go to the meetings that the director decides. That's not in the handbook.

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Dont give up. Look how far you've come already

I hope there's someone who can help you and that you can lean on for support. The number one thing is staying sober no matter what. Things will improve eventually. I'll keep you in my prayers