I'm working on learning (and utilizing) healthy coping mechanisms.
I'm working on unlearning my unhealthy ones.
I'm so friggin' tired of starting over.
I know the definition of insanity and yet I keep falling into the same trap, doing the same thing, expecting different results.
Anyone have any suggestions or words of wisdom?
Hey Shannen, we all have been there… for me I needed to change people, places and things. Sometimes we need to cut off the people who are bad for us. Stop going places that are bad for us… it may sound impossible but it does get easier. Have you been to any programs? What are you actively doing to make the changes you want? For me I had to completely let AA take over and work the steps.
Alright, depending on how many days you can go, I would recommend admitting you need help. I finally realized this after about 20 years of functional alcoholism. If you keep starting over because withdrawals are so awful , then a medical detox is a quintessential element to beginning your sobriety. Gets you smoothly through the first 5 days; this was my 4 the detox over the years and this way is by far the best route. Either after the med detox or you detox yourself or don't require a med detox , you should still go into a rehab of at least a few weeks and likely a month. There you learn coping mechanisms, gain a sense of community, likely make many friends and relationships you will keep for life. Afterwards, I did sober living but it's not for everyone. The rehab is pretty critical for anyone that just can't get a solid foundation of sobriety on their own. There are all female , all-male , and coed ones and they take all insurances including Medicaid/Medicare. I knew nda just looked around in a given radius and checked out Google reviews of the places and chose one. I personally liked co-ed places.
Anyhew, msg me if you have any questions.
Good luck and godspeed
Thank You