Im writing this as an embarrassed and not yet sober person… I really need some solid tips, words of encouragement, advice etc about how you managed to finally do it(quit drinking) and ways that i can hopfully, one day soon, do it too. I feel like starting is the hardest part for me and I struggle… im just very stuck in a battle against myself.
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Try to keep it in the day. Ask your higher power for the strength not to drink every morning and give thnx at night that you didn’t drink.
It’s so simple but helps keep me sober.
I’m a binge drinker so it took me a long time to realize I had a problem but when I did, it was too late. So much damage caused by me being drunk. It literally ruined my life..(that’s another story).
Hating alcohol has helped me to abstain and knowing that if I do drink, what those consequences could bring is what reminds me not to drink.
I’d recommend getting into an AA group, or at least attending meetings and listen to what others share.
Stay busy and take up a hobby. Buy a bike and hit some trails.
All of this has helped me in my journey.
Good Luck!
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Wow I truly didn’t think anyone would care enough to write such a helpful caring response… THANK YOU. I’m just thankful for my self awareness because I know what needs to be done (fully sober journey) because I will binge too with no off button. I just haven’t managed making the change though. But I won’t give up just yet.
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I ended up going through an inpatient medically supervised detox and now and am in intensive outpatient treatment. Like Rick said, taking it day by day has helped me immensely. I also don't have an off switch so I remind myself that I won't be going back to it. Finding things to be grateful for helps me daily. Especially when I identify something I wouldn't have cared about before getting sober. My therapist said something that sticks with me. She says yes we are removing alcohol from your life but what are we adding into our life. Staying busy helps. When I find my mind spinning and I feel the urge to drink I start writing. I don't write anything in particular, just whatever is bouncing around in my brain. It helps to get the thoughts out on paper, especially if they are negative ones. Going to meetings has also helped me. I've found a new support system through finding other people that have gone through the same situation. And always, always have hope. I wish you peace and strength as you embark on your journey. It's worth it. You are worth it. I promise. 
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Love what I read here... what has worked for me...
Going to an in person meeting and asking for help. SOMEONE will approach you.
At this in person meeting, there might be a point where the leader (chair) of the meeting asks who is looking for a "sponsor" and who is willing to be a "sponsor". This is someone that will work with you in recovery, help keep you sober, you still do the work. This person isn't your lawyer, ATM, marriage counselor, etc. This is someone you work with and are accountable to.
As also mentioned i take it one day at a time. I don't dwell in the past, I can't change it, and I have no clue what will happen tomorrow. I take it day by day staying sober, because forever is a LONG TIME!!! I sometimes break it into hours, minutes, seconds depending on the situation.
Get started and into action! EVERYONE starts new at some point. No one starts being sober with 20 years.
Starting is the hardest part. Making up your mind, that’s the real battle. If I never stopped and counted the cost, if I never asked myself what’s actually worth it, would I have ever gotten sober?
At some point, we all have to ask.., Is sobriety worth it? Is staying sober worth it? And the answer is always yes.
But then comes the real question...how worth it is it? It has to be worth more than anything in front of us. Worth enough that no matter what, we take the next step forward.