Today I have accomplished 4 months sober. I have been dealing good with the urges of drinking. I have been out with friends and family where there drinking involved and I have been able to deal with it. Is the feeling part that I still struggle with. The loneliness at times, is hard to overcome. Like today. I had a great day at work went to the gym after did a spin class but during the last hour my mind couldn’t let go of my feelings. The sadness loneliness that still inside. I know that those feelings might never go away. But they sure screw my day. It just plain sucks and don’t know what to do to let go to get better. I guess just keep on going and being the best version of myself.
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I'm sorry you're experiencing loneliness. I'm not sure what your belief system is- but during my loneliness is when I get closer to God.
Is it possible to hang out with your loved ones and friends without alcohol?
Do you have friends at the gym?
Maybe try going to a meeting. I know when I stopped drinking I grieved the loss of the relationship with alcohol for a long time.
Cause of my drinking it cost me my marriage. So I miss my wife. I have a good relationship with my family. And yes we can hang out without alcohol. My mom doesn’t drink. And both my brother and sister are very supportive of my recovery. I am not religious. Thanks for caring Amanda. Means a lot.
Not really. I joined a new gym 2 months ago. I like working out. It helps me physically and mentally. Before I started drinking heavily I used to do triathlons. That was 14 years ago. So I am getting back in to it. Started doing spin classes so I get to see the same people more often. Hopefully friendships will emerge. Thanks Joshua for caring.
I go to meetings Monday night. It helps a lot. Thanks Chrysti.
For sure. I like to meet folks and chat with them in the gym. I enjoy seeing the same folks and catching up between sets. I talk to the staff too, and they're friendly. The gym is great for me because it's a physical, mental, and social benefit.
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These thoughts and feelings always seem to creep in before bed time for me as well. It just happens and I don't have control over it. I have found meditation helps me focus and process them better than drinking and going down the rabbit hole again. Keep after it bro it will get better.