Picked up my son from school today. Lately hes been struggling with his math class. He has been really down , at his moms house he’s the only one with a lower grade in that particular class. When I have tried to talk to him , he shuts down. Its thend of the quarter and the grade resets….i want him to care about the gradeand i say dont give up, dont afraid to ask for help. After i dropped him off , i started to feel sad and the urge to drink came back for a little so i talked to some others about how i was feeling and it passed
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Thanks for sharing that. I was told that NOTHING good happens if I pickup. NOTHING!
Also, when I'm active in my alcoholism, I make things about me. It's outlined in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous where I want to be the director of a show, and am upset when things don't go as planned.
I was an amazing kid in elementary school and compliant. When I got to middle school, I stopped caring about non science classes and my grades showed. I wrote poorly, had terrible grammar, and didnt know where Tunisia was. Many years later, it all worked out. It caused my parents to buy a lot of Tums, it all still worked out.
For my kids, I helped them with the resources to be successful with whatever it is they want to do. My daughter was a terrible student in middle school. Today she's doing honor classes in college with a goal to be a physician. If she doesn't that's OK, as long as she has high job satisfaction.
Everyone isn't good at everything. I can't fix a car, nor hammer a nail straight. We need these people also. I encouraged my kids why it's important to know these things in school. Such as carrying cash and buying a coke at a 7-11, if they can't do math, they may get short changed. Maybe they want to travel to Disney in Tokyo, can they read and comprehend the requirements for a passport? Perhaps, they are good at a sport, maybe basketball. Learning some basic physics about an arc, gravity, and momentum could give them an edge.
For me it's about digging in to what makes them tick and get excited. I can't do that if I'm drunk and wallowing in a sorrow that isn't about me.
Firstly, I'm proud of you for allowing it to pass. What your son is experiencing is tough, but modeling a present way of coping will exceed everything taught in school 
Your influence is valued so much more
If I pick up a drink when I have a problem or something happens or I'm feeling down ,
- then I have Two problems now, and the second one is ALWAYS worse !!!!