Is dating wildly triggering to anyone else?

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Is dating wildly triggering to anyone else?

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#2

Reason they say wait a year. Easily triggered when new to recovery. Best to know yourself first.

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#4

Not for me. I can see how it might be for some though. Everybody is different.

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#5

Thanks Seth, I really should get back into journaling. It's strange going on a date and feeling like the old you would mesh better with the person you're seeing. I struggle with feeling boring/ limited since getting sober.

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#6

Yeah, 4 months in was probably too soon

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#7

I made the mistake yrs ago thinking how romantic it is sharing a bottle of wine. It ended very bad. I learned the hard way I can not drink, period. I can not date a drinker. It will not work.

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#8

Yep :frowning: makes me feel guilty I can't do that. I would prefer to date a none drinker but they're hard to come by

#9

I don't feel guilty. I don't have a problem with them having wine out to dinner but drinking at home I draw the line. I don't know your age but at 65 there are plenty of none drinkers out there.

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I'm 28 so sometimes it feels near impossible

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#11

I feel for anyone young. I remember vividly. I will say if they are true friends they accept your not drinking without question. I have friends who would question if I had a drink. If you better understood what alcohol does you might think differently. Quite literally it will kill you. Start with the book Alcohol Explained by William Porter. It's easy to read and understand. If you have questions I'll tell you what I know. It's not too harrowing but sloppy.

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#12

Thanks Charlie! I agree

#13

Doesn’t work for me. I failed and drank last time i tried dating. I will either find someone sober or wait at least a year or more. 60 day atm. I Totally understand.

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#14

It depends on who I decide to date. I’m currently “courting” with someone I wouldn’t even pick to date because he’s genuine and supportive and isn’t rushing me into anything. He doesn’t use or drink. And he’s not rushing me to come live with him. He wants me to graduate my halfway house. These things had me BLOWN AWAY when we first met. But they say do something different. So if you’re not strong enough to do something different with someone different then I suggest that you wait on dating bc it can lead you right back out there.

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