Does anyone besides me find recovery lonely and hard as hello. I knew it would be a fight for my life, but dang. Is it gonna get better? Will I ever have friends again that wanna go do things like hike and fish and walk in the woods for no reason? Does every conversation have to be about recovery? Can't we just recover and have a life? I just wanna feel normal again....but I've never seen normal. I'm going off truth in how I'm feeling at the moment....
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I feel you Ashely, it does get better little by little …. I have gone thru what you’re going thru and still am but I don’t feel overwhelmed like I did in the beginning. It is a struggle so you’re not alone 
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Yesss
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It's just being careful to not let the desire for connection overpower the need for recovery.. because yes we.cant do it alone.. the opposite of addiction is connection.. but interdependence on one another not codependence.. leads to independence
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I feel ya, sister! I'm a homebody but it's lonely. And not being around the old people is fine with me but it sucks after a while. When I'm on my 178th Friday night alone! Haha!!
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I feel the same way as you, after being in addiction for the time I was I've lost contact with many sober friends and find it hard to reconnect
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Yes! Keep going and you will find your tribe. Sending lots of hugs your way.
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It gets better. It ebbs and flows like life on life’s terms. Just hang on it gets easier.
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Lonely AF. I try not to bring up recovery so it doesn't define me in the slightest. You have to allow others (that can handle it) around you to at least drink and don't get holier than thou, which sounds like you aren't. In cutting off a lot of toxic circles, it really is like starting over. There are usually local groups that do sober activities; SMART is a good place to start if you got them around you.
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A new chapter. Wishing you happiness!!!
It gets so much better. It's really alienating at first because you lose the "friends" you had in active addiction who aren't on the path of recovery. For me each day that I remain sober that feeling of loneliness dissipates, even with the reduced circle of people because I'm no longer seeking acceptance or approval from.outside sources.
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It will happen. It is at first
I'm feeling the same exact way...
Yea, I’m in the same boat for sure. It’s definitely lonely, and I wonder the same things 
It gets better.
I am so busy with different things these days.
I’m just checking in before heading back out to help with a festival I am involved with.
Once you start getting some days, weeks, months of sobriety…life gets better.
I cannot believe that I am the same woman who wasted years of life…being drunk so often.
I appreciate your honesty.
You can do this.
Takes patience and giving your own self some grace…especially when beginning, when starting out.
Rooting for you!
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Normal is a general term. You are no longer normal, but the ultimate survivor... So old things are passed away and you are living a new life, not new recovery but new life. Recovery is merely a part of our story and as the days go on. You will write new chapters in this book called life. Recovery is the solid foundation of rebuilding. You're one the right path. Remember this previous post of mine.
Recovery is great. I love how I feel. The new freedom I have over my life. But it's not all sunshine. I think if we bring out the hard stuff and talk about it it helps it not have any power. I think this is just my time for myself. To learn what I want and how I want to live. I have made peace with the loneliness now. I meditated on it and talked to my therapist. I don't want to isolate and I won't but I accept what is going on in my life right now. Thank you everyone for your thoughtfulness and guidance