I had 52 days, and then an ex came over who is always a bad influence on me. I thought I could have a night of drinking and I could go back to not doing it again, but here I am, four days later, drinking gin straight from the bottle when I don’t have the money to even be doing so. I live alone and feel extremely overwhelmed. The only family I have are my parents (and they live four hours away), but I can’t tell them what’s going on. To be honest, even when I was sober, everything felt kind of pointless. I just wish I had a friend to hold me right now. I feel extremely pathetic.
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Sending you hugs from Montana. I feel ya in the “ thought I could drink one night” situation. It always sucks me back in. Hope you can find the drive to get through day one again.
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Hang in there your not alone. 1.5 years for me. I'm struggling today also. I remind myself I'm better without it.
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Ex’s are ex’s for a reason. Looks like this ex showed you the reason. Places, people, & things…. Get you every time. Get back to it. Can do it again.
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I hope you are feeling better and find the strength to put that bottle back down. Remember you are not defined by a relapse.
You got this and if you ever need to talk I am here.
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You ain’t pathetic; you’re human. Reach out to your parents, never feel like you can’t tell them about your mistakes. We all have them; family is there for helping us get stronger. If for some reason that’s still not an option for you, find someone in your area, whether at a Recovery Club or some sobriety meeting, and just share what you’re going through.
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How are you holding up, Lauren? You’re not pathetic. Not at all.
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It happens. Get back to day one again. Sending my thoughts and prayers to you. I lived alone for a very long time and I know how hard that can be. You’ve got to find what you need.
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Agree with you 100%!
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One of the hardest parts for me was the loneliness of being clean/sober cause I had to pretty much stop talking to everyone I knew relationships included but then I started making sober friends from mainly my meetings, still single and lonely at times but it's better than my life was before I just go to more meetings to build my sober friends base
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Hang in there Lauren! Just remember that you always mean something to someone. Don’t let a relapse determine who you are or what is going to happen to you. Keep your chin up and remember that this shall pass. 24 hours at a time.
Humans are in fact pathetic. Its part of our make up. Sometimes we are less pathetic than other times, it's just life. My point is, you aren't alone. Pathetic? Yes. So am I and everyone who comment above me and after me. But you're definitely not alone.
Stay away from exes, they aren't healthy for you. They never are. Plug into a sober program and set up a sober network. You can't do this on your own.
Speak for yourself, friend. I don’t consider myself pathetic.
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I can only speak on what I see, from where im standing. We have all been and will be pathetic in some way or another. What you think is just that, what you think.
I understand that. You’re entitled to your opinion. I was just saying, I don’t think it’s necessary to speak for others to prove your point.
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Isolation can be a good thing when you’re drying out. Lean into it, use the time to confront why you’re being self-destructive. You can get there! It will be hard but the other side is worth it.
I know this is hard. I really do. But listen to others here. Don’t let a relapse define you. They happen sometimes and we just need to get back up and tame that beast. I know you have it in you. And you don’t have to tell your parents if you are u comfortable. But you have to tell someone who knows about your alcoholism. That way we become accountable for our slips. Find someone in a meeting. Tell a sponsor if you have one. If you don’t have a sponsor really think about getting one. I know you can do this love
Relapse is part of recovery!! I might not happen to everyone, but don’t get down on your self about it just throw the alcohol away! As hard as it might be, if it’s not around you you’ll not have the urge to use it
Your not pathetic you have a problem that says nothing about you as a person Meetings really help me. Online or in person
These things happen try not to focus on beating yourself up but try to focus on getting better today. If you focus on the present and take it one day at time sobriety doesn't seem so daunting. Also it maybe time to leave the ex as an ex and move forward.