Its been 23 months that my wife & children walked

Mental Health
#1

Its been 23 months that my wife & children walked out of my life. I miss them very much but i reconnected with a woman ive known since i was 5 yrs old. My ex wife has been open & honest with me since she left she dont want to be married anymore,so when is it ok for me to start living my life again & I really enjoy spending time with this said woman. Im scared to hurt her cause I love & miss my ex wife but im tired of having no one to share life with. This woman is amazing but i don’t want to hurt her in anyway……….she is smart beautiful & I feel safe with her & I’m 53 i don’t want to waste anymore time feeling sorry for myself ?????

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#2

Chad, just be honest, gentle and kind. Take your time. It’ll all work itself out if you have integrity, respect and stay sober.

#3

I’m in a similar position. I was treated so badly by my ex but stuck around because I was an alcoholic, addict, and didn’t want to be alone. I found someone in outpatient treatment and I was able to leave the abuse and get sober 57 days today. You deserve to be happy.

#4

I am in a similar spot. My wife left around the first of the year (we have been seperated for 2.5 years, but ran a business together). I went completely off the deep end, around valentine's day I reconnected with a lady from high school who just by being there, and having positive feedback got me through the withdrawal. 60 days on Friday. I asked my wife for permission to start a talking to (persuing) this woman. Hearing her say that it was okay changed everything.

#5

Chad, LIVE LIFE. Live your BEST LIFE. Put fear to the side and trust yourself. You've got a lot of wisdom / experience etc within you. 23 months is a long time to sit with grief while trying to rebuild. You’re not wasting time by living, you’re honoring the version of you that fought to still be here. The fact that you’re worried about hurting this woman tells me exactly the kind of man you are right now, careful, self-aware, not rushing in. Your ex-wife has been clear with you. That’s not an invitation to move on guilty, that’s actually her way of releasing you. Love what’s in front of you. 53 isn’t old, it’s earned. Go live