The most difficult part of sobriety for me, has been the loneliness. No one wants to be responsible for the sober person slipping. The enemy is boredom.
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Congratulations on the year
My enemy is definitely boredom. After 5 months I’m starting to find peace in being alone. It sucks bad at times but doing something productive helps. Keep going!
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Boredom is a terrible enemy for most substance use disorder clients. Starting a 4-5 day a week exercise program really helps, not only gives you a natural dopamine high, but also crushes cravings and boredom. Possibly meet new healthy friends as well.
I feel this 
Congratulations 
My enemy is myself. I know what I'm capable of doing to myself and that also means self medicating. Right now my biggest enemy is grief. I'm grieving over the loss of an Aunt that was a mom to me and I want to drink very bad but can't because I know the consequences of a relapse. I don't have another recovery in me
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The boredom and loneliness are treatable. Try to reach out to someone. Get busy. Have fun! The triggers are the thing to treat.
The hardest thing about getting sober and staying sober is spending time out of your head and being with self I have been sober for years and spending time with self is the hardest part but you will be okay one day at atime
Caitlin,
I deal with the loneliness too! I have 12 days of sobriety now. I notice that since I’ve been going to meetings and sharing when I can that when I get home the loneliness doesn’t hit me. I’m very grateful for this because the loneliness I’d suffer was near debilitating.
Our addiction thrives in isolation. It whispers to us in our own sweet voice that the bottle is our “friend”, That we will surely feel better with “just one drink”. And that is the lie that begins the spiral. Find connection-through a meeting, on line, in nature, whatever and wherever, That is the key-and the truth.
I hear this from many ppl and it makes me wonder why. I suppose it could be where you live. I live in South Eastern Massachusetts. there are over 2500 mtgs each week in eastern Massachusetts alone. most small cities or towns have 3-5 meetings each week. when I first got clean/sober, before I jumped in and fully embraced AA, I was a bit lonely and bored. I believe we get addicted not only to drugs/alcohol but the chaos of that lifestyle. the danger/excitement etc. we easily forget about the pain, disappointment, demoralizing, shame, guilt of a few days or months ago. I suggest get involved. join a group, get a job in that group. I joined this site only last week and posted about some of the cool and fun stuff I've done, sober...with sober friends. you're going to see you have a lot more money to spend on fun stuff. activities, adventures. my biggest problem now is I want to travel, go to the islands, Mexico, Columbia, Thailand, etc....but my friends can't get the time off. so we do cheaper things. Friday about 30 if us are going to dinner and bowling. we go to Bill Wilson house a few times each year. white water rafting, concerts, ball games, theater, corn hole tournament, etc...if anyone wants to travel, hit me up. but I got surgery coming up soon so hurry up. have fun. find that child in you again
Caitlan, you’re not alone! My addict/mind/ego uses boredom, loneliness, judgement, anything to make me miserable and want a drink or a drug.
I recognize that shiiittt in 2 seconds now days.
I get to AA/NA/CA meetings, do service work, meditate, pray, do something productive or simply dismiss that negativity as my addiction/the devil trying to get me back.
I suffered from loneliness. I have been making more effort to reach out to the community. I am attending more meetings and meeting new people and I'm not bored I have some new friends. It was hard at first but it gets easier the more meetings I go to the more I like going. Get a home group & a sponsor and you will soon be cured of loneliness & boredom. Congratulations on your sobriety. Welcome to life! the best is yet to come
I totally agree
I feel the same, lonely at times
I can relate to that for sure
I totally agree, the loneliness can be aching sometimes. It’s the worst feeling but just know that God is always there for you . But yeah to me there’s NOTHING like a woman’s touch…
Keep it up congratulations