Ive always been the kinda guy that will do whatever it takes to make my woman happy. I wait on her hand and foot, buy her flowers spur of the moment, take her to dinner, pay extra attention to things she likes to do and do them for or with her nomatter if it’s something i enjoy or not just because i love to put a smile on my girls face. Being that kinda guy has always back fired on me and causes her to think she can just run over me and take advantage of my kindness Ive just got a question for everybody. Why dont women want that kinda man anymore. I’ve been single for three years just because I’m afraid of being hurt not too much as a date for the past three years, but I’m getting tired of being alone.
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A wise person once told me that until your fear of being hurt becomes smaller than your belief and confidence in your ability to bounce back and recover after being hurt, you’re not ready to date. This love thing is risky business but it’s engrained in our DNA to connect with someone. You can’t run from biology. Take your power back! Love because it’s who you are, not for the external validation. When you change your approach, you may well find that it’s not so painful when the shoe isn’t the right size for someone.
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This is true stuff and I will never change the way I treat women my mother raised me to respect women and to show your love not just tell them you love them a set of lips can say anything a person’s actions is what proves their love and respect for a person.
Ty
This is what I do while I wait for the man who is worthy of being with me. I buy myself flowers and take myself to nice dinners. I’m working on stepwork and putting my higher power first. Getting out into nature, going on trips. Learning to love myself so I can be the best version of myself. I don’t need to go looking, it’s gods timing for me. I will know when it happens and I’ll be ready. Right now I just gotta be patient and keep working on Tina. Thank you for the post.
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As a leader who works with women in recovery I hear perhaps you are attracting the wrong kind of woman. I’ve learned from experience in my own life that until I got healthier and could see that the other person wasn’t healthy, I continued to get into unhealthy relationships. Get into a 12 step program, celebrate recovery is a great one. I am now being able to walk away from unhealthy people in my life because I can see their unhealthy behaviors and that no longer fits into my life. I respect myself enough to walk away. It has taken me years of work! Start now digging into your childhood, past and the way you see yourself. Increase your awareness of the patterns you’ve had in past relationships. that’s been huge for me, also look to God for insight and discernment. .
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I here ya!!!
I’ve realized my unhealthy behaviors in dating/relationships say more about me than the other person. I gotta work on me, otherwise I’ll repeat the same issues and cycle in my relationships. Until I get that better, I’m staying single. There’s other healthy ways to connect- I find it in friends and social settings, and I’ve never been happier. Work on being the BEST you, and she’ll come around when the time is right.
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Yeah, I have been single for over three years and I feel the same way. I just get lonely sometimes.