Ive gotten sober a few times the longest ive made it is 8 months. I can never seem to get it to stick though i always feel like im not fully me or like theres a huge hole that nothing or no one can fill. Anyone feel the same and have any advice
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Hey Brooke, I’ve felt that too. Like something’s just… missing. Sometimes it’s not about fixing the hole, it’s about filling it little by little, and you can do that here as you build a support circle. Eight months shows you’ve got the fight in you. Hope to see keep checking in.
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And that's my problem every time I get sober for some reason I just can't get myself to chill with anyone every time I get sober I isolate
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Me too! Its working now, but I lacked the ability to make it stick before.
It took a complete change in approach.
Hopefully you can find yours. Dont stop trying!
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Brooke, I recently started AA and learned that some groups take sober trips together (ex camping). It may really help your struggle with isolation if you can find some sober friends on the same journey as you
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A poem that helped me...
There's a hole in my sidewalk
By Portia Nelson
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost...I am helpless. It is not my fault. It takes me forever to find my way out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in. I can't believe I am in the same place. But it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall in... It's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
I walk down another street. 
When you find yourself walking the same path, and finding yourself in that same hole, don't see it as a setback... look at it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Look at it, as an opportunity to remember your path, or an opportunity to guide you onto a new path. You have the steps. You have the map. You know the way. You just have to remember how to get there. And you have to remember, you have the strength, tools, knowledge, and know-how, to walk around the hole, or walk down a new street.
It's ok to fall in a hole... its Bad a**, to know how to climb out again. And you know how. This post, shows you do. Remember that. You're strong. 
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Ive been to quite a few aa meetings before the problem is the last one I went to a man that has sexualy assaulted me at a party in the past was there and it was extremely hard to see him and to deal with the emotions I haven't been able to go to one since then
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Ty I like that
I know what you mean I felt the same way for the first 8 months too. It gets better to meet new friends new people try new things keep your mind occupied it helps.
Oh Brooke I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how hard that was.. your recovery is in your hands now, don’t give him the power to stop you from the goals you want to meet. If you try AA meetings again and he’s there, there’s nothing wrong with simply walking out to protect yourself