It's scary. It sucks. I just hope I'm not alone for the rest of my life.
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As a first time single in my life female whose now been single seven years.. I feel that .. I totally feel that
I'm enjoying being single. Out of a 15 year long relationship that was broken from the beginning. My last drunk destroyed it completely which ended up being for the better if I have to find a positive. Dating sober is super strange though. I guess when you're drunk you don't realize how fücking crazy people are, it you just normalize it.
Either way, it's nice to have time to myself to read, travel, do MY dishes instead of someone else's, pay MY bills, do what I wanna do.
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I feel the same way I’ve just been recently single going on about a year now and yes it’s definitely scary and lonely one of the few reasons why I’ve been dealing with being depressed
I'm in a similar situation but was only in one relationship for 20+yrs. Although I am not single but was "alone" and 10 months sober; I'm realizing it's very possible that I won't be "alone" forever. I'd highly recommend focusing this time on yourself. Live through and feel the emotions that are expected to come... just don't suppress them. Finding content in solitude is quite gratifying. Try and remember you have to be able to love yourself before loving someone else.
Words of Encouragement: Instead of teaching men how to keep a woman, let's encourage them to be the greatest things to and for themselves. a man's value is not validated by his ability to attract and / or keep a woman.
I’m with you. My 20+ year relationship ended last year. This is completely new territory for me. I realize that it ended for all the right reasons. however having a constant companion for that long is something a person gets used to. It’s a big adjustment.
The solutions I have found are these: I get to meetings, I work the steps and have sponsees, be of service to others at home and in my community, enjoy my hobbies and try to be as productive as possible. That is what helps me.