Hi everyone. My name is Noelle, and I'm sober 60 days. Every day is an obstacle in life for me, not because of my addiction, but because of a TBI that i suffer from. There are days when i dont even remember where i am or how i got there due to my brain damage. I've been in recovery for 34 yrs and struggle to let others get close to me anymore because i feel like no one really cares about me and the challenges I face medically. But i no longer want to feel alone anymore, either.
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Hi Noelle,
I am SO glad you reached out and we're brave enough to share this with all of us!!
I do not know what it is like to have TBI, but, I do know what it is like to be a substance abuser, that's for sure!
I was used to being alone for many years, starting as a young child and into my 30's. I chose to go to Alcoholics Anonymous which helped me not be alone. I found the people in the meetings that I I went to that were friendly and had my best interest. I learned to have my best interest but it took me time about 6 months to create a small group of friends. I did have to put myself out there and talk to people, go for coffee and get into activities that did not include alcohol. I found these people did understand me when people who dont have issues with alcohol couldn't This was not easy for me but I took the first step in reaching out. It looks like this is what you are doing. Kudos to you!
As far as the TBI, I am wondering if there are people that you can find within the people you know that aren't drinking that may have the same challenges as you are facing with your TBI?
Maybe there is an online group that are in your shoes if you dont find anybody locally? Please dont give up.
Many people dont know what it's like to have a TBI but, many do. Don't give up the search! Keep going! You are worth it! Let people know so you can be supported!
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Hi Ann. Thank you for sharing this with me. AA and those I've gotten close to have helped in more ways than 1. And thru the steps, God and my desire to never give up I am getting better with each day. I
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That is SO AWESOME!
For me 12 steps helped and it sounds like it has a positive impact on you, too.
I know it's not for everybody, but it sure has been there for me through my years of sobriety!
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Dearest Noelle,
I sympathize with you. I too have suffered. Many years have gone by that I knew I survived. Today however, I now walk in the power of thriving. Lost and now found. I just wanted to reach out and say that I am here for you in whatever way I can. Feel free to add me. I can share my light with you if you choose. I can offer a new way of understanding that you are never alone. Hugs
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Ladies, you both have brought tears of joy to me today. Thank you for being here
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Hey Noelle, 60 days is amazing. I’m really proud of you. I know it’s not easy, especially with everything else you’re dealing with, but you’re not alone. I see you, and I’m cheering you on. 
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Thank you Chrissy. That means alot to me. All of you ladies have given me strength today that was definitely needed.