Just a question 
So after being a addict forever is it possible to be loved and receive it or will i always self sabotage? How do you become feminine after having to be so hard for so long .. any advice or insight please .. have a beautiful day
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Hey Lindsey! First, I know first hand about self sabotage. No doubt my worst enemy has always been me. I often say I was born with a very strong self sabotage gene. Yes, you can learn to not let this destroy you. I found I couldn’t fight this alone. I turned to a program of recovery for help. I’ve been actively practicing a recovery program for 39 months now. My program of recovery includes AA, my therapist, apps like Loosid, podcasts, etc. It does take some work, but it’s been unbelievably rewarding.
As to how to become more feminine, I can’t answer that exactly, but I can definitely tell you that change is possible. We are told a leopard can never change its spots. I say BS to that. I’ve seen change in many recovering friends. When I began to forgive myself, I became a “softer” person. I bet you are wickedly hard on yourself. That hardness resonates out towards others. Once you begin the process of recovery, you will see that your “toughness” will no longer spill over and harm all of your relationships. Our basic motives and instincts are out of whack. They were needed to survive thru childhood and tough situations earlier in life. Thru recovery you can begin to not let this destroy your current life. Those strong characteristics that you needed to survive will always be there, but they will be an asset once again…no longer controlling you. There is hope! Keep pushing yourself towards getting help. It’s a process. 2 steps forward, 1 step back. Keep moving forward ODAAT
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