Just a vent

Recovery
#22

Thank you everyone for your helpful words. It's nice knowing there's a kind community here.

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#23

It does get pretty lonely, Iā€™m going through this myself. I downloaded the meetup app, not sure where you live but Iā€™m in NYC so thereā€™s quite a bit going on here. Anyway, thereā€™s stuff going on that are healthy. Tomorrow Iā€™m playing soccer and volleyball with people Iā€™ve never met. Thatā€™s just an idea but I would like to have new healthy friends. Btw, itā€™s awesome youā€™ve been staying sober, stay the course, things will begin to align for youā€¦ these people that ghost you are not the right ones for you so theyā€™re doing you a favor, sounds cheesy but I truly believe that.

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#24

Great post and the part about those people not being the RIGHT people is spot on.

#25

Hey, have you looked for sober apps that have events near you? The Phoenix is one I just started using. Obviously only sober people attend. Might be a good way to do something fun and meet people to be in your sober group.

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#26

Thank you! I haven't tried that one yet but I will definitely check it out

#27

I go hiking and talk to random people, play disc golf and jump into folks already playing a game, or just walk up to folks on the street.

#28

Try AA. Itā€™s a place to start networking with other people with similar issues and goals for practical life. Itā€™s not a church or a badge to wear. People donā€™t speak in AA quotes. People arenā€™t celibate:) check it out. One of the bigger clubs maybeā€¦

#29

Every time I've tried AA it was ruined by the people who were forced to be there by the courts

#30

Find a different one:)

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#31

Iā€™ve been sober and single over 6 years,,, it can be lonely at times, but I wouldnā€™t trade it for my drinking daysā€¦ today I try to reach out to others in the program., and when I donā€™t,,, I know itā€™s meā€¦ I need to continue doing the footworkā€¦.

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#32

Go into sober living if you have been sober less than 1 year. And screw anyone that canā€™t respect your sobriety. And try different meetings they arenā€™t all bad. It takes awhile to find the right one for you. Join some new activities that you havenā€™t done before. A new hobby or try sober meet up groups. Also not sure if you have the phoenix app they are great for sober things online or in person.

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#33

Iā€™m moving to Arizona so thanks for the suggestion

#34

Thatā€™s how I got sober,, nudge from the judge,,, then the rest was up to meā€¦. Sorry if thatā€™s youā€™re experience.

#35

Bro,I'm struggling right now.my ex wife been together 23 yes and 5 kids.we split or she left me a year half ago,and it's just me no family to come home too,ohh and I just found out she's pregnant from someone else,battles bro I know!!

#36

Where in Arizona? Prescott has a huge recovery community. And your welcome. They some of the best rehab facilities in the country. Plus itā€™s not near as hot in the summertime

#37

Iā€™ve done that a few times. Finally landed and I just want to say Iā€™m sorry this happens. It shouldnā€™t. But maybe this is just a catalyst to bring you to the right place. The group that fits you. I always pretty much liked everyone and a few ticked me off, so I looked elsewhere. Sometimes it is simply not a great fit. Nothing wrong with anybody or with you. Just try again?

#38

That's what I've been trying. And trying. I hold onto every last grasp of hope I can muster. But after so long and reintroducing myself constantly I'm losing hope and the will to keep pushing forward.

#39

The point is you are bettering yourself. The point is dying from this S$$& is really brutal. I watched it first hand.

I have people in my family that will not talk to me since my recovery got started but at this point I just wrote them off. I wish I could post a picture of my friend that was found dead in his car from bleeding out from alcohol. So bottom line you can either do what your loser friends want or you can keep moving forward and be an example for them.

Remember itā€™s your life not their life. Maybe down the road they will realize that they want what you have. A life free. Stay strong

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#40

Have you tried going to some zoom mtgs? Iā€™ve done that a lot. Itā€™s really how I started out. I kind of lurked lol. Itā€™s fine you know. You donā€™t have to say anything.

#41

I'm not interested in recovery meetings. I believe in the power of the words and energies you surround yourself with. If I make my life all about recovery it's still a life with booze at the center. I have 2 years and I'm ready for some stability in my life

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