Just need someone to talk to. My boyfriend is an addict and I'm am alcoholic. I am 10 months sober on the 21st. My boyfriend and I just got into a fight tonight about him leaving for rehab for a few months. It's not that I dont want him to go I'm just scared. Scared to be alone for so long. I havent been without him for that long of a period. Hes my soulmate. How do I cope? How do I find the right tools to be a better person when he comes home?
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Meetings and readings be empathetic and open minded also while he's gone take time to look at your defects and also help others with small tasks day to day
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Set up a daily routine, and stick to it. Like - make the bed right away, make coffee, eat a bagel… And set up a before bed routine - shower, meditate, bowl of ice cream… The consistency will help you feel like things are normal. I do the same thing every morning and night, to the point the dog now waits by the door at exactly the same time every morning and night. We all fear change, it’s normal to be anxious with the unknown. Take his absence as an opportunity to grow. Set some goals for yourself. You got this! Good luck.
You could see if there’s any CoDA meetings near you or on zoom. Journal, attend meetings, and talk with your sponsor 
& remember that it’s important, as a partner, to support their strides to better themselves. Him going to rehab is a good thing for BOTH of you; you got this!
It may be hard at first for you to be without him, but if he is your "soul mate" everything will be fine. If the issue is actually that you have begun to lean on him to the point of codependency, you will learn to live without him and may see your feelings were not real. While he is gone hit up as many meetings as you can. Keep sober for yourself, and for him. If he is your life long then he will need the help.