Just relapsed after 6 months sober. Can I be

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Just relapsed after 6 months sober. Can I be any more of a failure ?

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#2

What happened? :weary:

#3

Just made dumb decisions smh

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#4

Tomorrow is a different day don’t be so hard on yourself :heart:

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#5

I wish I could tell myself that daily.

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#6

Did you go blind and take a dump in your best friend's driveway? If not, then yes, you can be more of a failure. :nerd_face: But look at the whole thing, not just the act of going out. Perpetuating resentment against yourself like you're doing in this post is part of the high. What are you getting out of beating yourself up for it? Perhaps if you start addressing the resentment and shame, you might discover that the desire to drink lessens.

#7

So why don't you

#8

Did you do that? Lol

#9

The road leads 3 places: jail, institutions, & death

#10

No way!I didn’t know that…

#11

You got this :muscle:t4::relaxed:

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#12

Thank you. I love how people comment on posts on here and act like they don’t know the struggle.. thank you for
Being so kind

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#13

We’re only human, we make mistakes . If we didn’t we would never learn from them

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#14

Hi, Melissa-rooting for you.
Glad you reached out.
Yes. If “ positive “ self - talk, reflection were oh just so easy and to begin with-I know that I would never have drank as much as I did to begin with.

You are being honest and yes, relapse completely sucks while you acknowledge that you messed up.
And, yes. You can do this, you have it in you to remain sober.

It is pretty natural to feel defeated-while you are not defeated, you are here!
Please keep reaching out.
P.S., please consider checking out the words and work of Dr. Kristin Neff.
Her work centers around self-compassion.
Sending along good energy, your way-Melissa!

#15

Hi Melissa, I remember my last relapse. I was 144 days chemically sober but I had no program. I was relying on my willpower. And I’m sick. I’m an alcoholic. Willpower does not treat disease.

So I went back to the beginning. 12 steps. Therapy. I did not go back to treatment but I remembered the misery of it. I learned. I was down on myself. The self loathing was back. I felt like a whole and complete failure. But that time I had had a taste of success and I was just more driven to get it back. Eventually. I did stay drinking for a few miserably long months and had to detox again. That really sucked.

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Hi Melissa,

With 10 years of sobriety, I humbly share with you that nearly all of us have been where you are. When you're truly sick of being sick, you'll fight like a warrior one day at a time for your sobriety no matter what life brings. It's the only thing we have control over. No one can take the gift of sobriety from you...except you. :orange_heart:

#17

Let it go. Start with the today. Learn a lesson from it so you don’t repeat the cycle leading up to the drink.

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#18

You are not a failure. You made it 6 months and that is an accomplishment! You learned a lot in that 6 months, and you don’t lose that knowledge.

Figure out what happened, learn from it to avoid it happening again, then put it behind you and continue in your sobriety.

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In my opinion

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You are not!!!!! Let’s see. You drank because you’re an alcoholic. Surprise surprise. If it was easy to quit you would have already done it. I relapsed for a while and quit. It just dragged out the withdrawal time. Coming back after a slip is courageous too so. Good work​:blush::ok_hand::clap: