I don't understand why a person can claim they are here to help you but do everything to hinder you. And claim all this love. I'm so tired of the lies and fakeness. Like it is being shown more and more that they are not here to help but because their live really ain't about anything they are so willing to destroy my mind all the way to not allow me to sleep. They use my food but don't feed me or allow me to cook. They don't allow me to sleep at night and the biggest is they use an under age child to invade my privacy and peace of mind. It breaks my heart cause I was always there and now I need it and it's not returned.
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In am so sorry Porshia. There are persons on this world who do and will care about/ for you. I don't know your situation but it sounds like you may need to get out of there. Let me know if there's anything I can do for you, definitely including a dominos order if you'd like.
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I’m so sorry this is happening to you. But you need to set boundaries and say no. We are used to doing this. You have to do you now. 
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It’s time to put your well being first. You’ve taken the first step in recognizing and being aware of the problem. Now comes the action part. You have to do something about it. This may not be something you’re used to doing, so you are going to have to wake up every morning and make the choice that today you have boundaries, and that you are important. You don’t have to be a stuck and helpless victim anymore. You can take back your power by practicing new healthy behaviors and boundaries. This isn’t easy, and it’s not always pretty, but you can do it. We are here to support you.
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Lol thanks I may just hold you up on that offer for pizza
I wish it was that simply I'm not even being asked to have the option to say no. I guess cause it's not my place they feel the right to violate
I get up working on bettering my situation but for some odd reason I keep hitting a brick wall. Even for my sobriety it's not a healthy place for me to be bit just for today I am clean and sober.
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Seems like you need to reprogram yourself and set some boundaries
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What do you mean by reprogramming myself
You have to have to set a different mind set. You said it yourself how tired are you of being sick and tired? Set a boundary, pray to you higher Power, Bless them change me, there is a solution to every problem when your ready you will stand up, ground yourself suit up show up. Go to meetings, get numbers find a sponsor work the steps. Find a circle of positive people who you can turn to. Get out of self and do what you need to do to make this situation better. What’s your part in all this. Love to stay an chat . But I have a commitment Secretary at a meeting gotta run good luck!!
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Being in recovery has enabled me to set healthy boundaries. Remember that "No" is a complete sentence. I don't put myself out if I going to end up hurting myself. Doesn't mean I'm selfish either.
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I know this is not easy while Porshia, from what I have read-am reading…you are being gaslighted, emotionally abused.
Do you have a support system, even one person there/near you - who can help you?
I am worried for you.
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Is there any possible way that you can leave this environment, Porshia?
As in safely?
Is leaving an option?
If even for one day?
Do you have a friend, someone you can trust-nearby?
I read the suggestions about boundaries while everything I am reading-from what you have shared with us, sounds like control issues, gaslighting on the part of this individual … I really feel as if you need to leave this toxic environment…this person does not strike me as the sort of person who is gonna uh, give a lick about your boundaries.
You can establish a billion boundaries. This environment sounds toxic and controlling.
There are many forms of emotional abuse and you are experiencing it…from you shares. My opinion-while what so is sounding like.
Be safe, stay sober (!!!) and I hope that there are some solid solutions and alternatives to this environment you are in.
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Use I say no