As someone who has struggles with alcohol. I have tried AA before. Only twice in my life and only went to a few meetings. I’m so desperate to get sober! I’m almost 40 and have been drinking heavily since I was 16. I think it’s the higher power thing and the giving up power that makes me feel uncomfortable but I feel like I’m really ready. I really want to be sober!
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Thank you Ang! I am actually joining a SMART recovery online meeting at 2:30 est. My first one. I will see how it goes. Thank you so much for taking the time!
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Thank you! I will for sure check it out! I need all the help I can get right now
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I'm doing my first SMART meeting tomorrow. I have similar feelings as you do about recovery and support groups. There's no one size fits all and I just want to find what's going to work for me
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That’s cool Andrew!! You’ll have to let me know what you think
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Absolutely!
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Don't worry about the higher power stuff. Doesn't matter. Get your a$$ back to AA and stay there. You need the friendship of people who know where you are coming from. That's it for now. You have admitted here that your life is unmanageable and you want a change that you're unable to make happen on your own.
You ain't "giving up power". You, like all of us, are delusional. We actually think we have some power to give up. Obviously we dont!
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Totally.
Let people find what works for them. The purpose of this app is to help people find sobriety, not to boost AA attendance. AA has no better success rate than just quitting on your own. If it works for you and a lot of people on here, that is amazing and I am extremely happy for all of you, but it is not the end all be all. Bullying people into a program they have no interest in is not going to help them.
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Thanks for the very rational, not at all unhinged response. You really showed us...
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Try smart recover if aa is uncomfortable for you, that have online meetings and maybe local meetings in area. Also they is a great book on it on Amazon.. trust the process and one day, one week, one month at a time..
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Dàmn right i did. Haha
I'm kidding.
I'm an acquired taste.
Hey Lew, personally I found a men's group that focuses on us growing as men with the Lord and then hiking trails really helped me keep my mind focused.
In my opinion, if you count every single win and try to understand your triggers all the way down until you can't ask why anymore, things seem a bit more clear. Just a bit 
I think the best thing to take away from here is that
WE'RE ALL HERE FOR YOU AND WITH YOU. YOU GOT US BROTHER.
I never felt I had a problem with alcohol it was drugs but I drank when I was getting high. What I realize is as long as I believe I had any choices or any control my life will always be unmanageable. But as soon as I totally accepted that I never had control nor choices. I begin to really deal with life terms without any desire for drugs or drinking. What helped me with that is totally surrendering to the process of recovery in AA because my way was never working and I desire a new way of life.
Hi Lewis: Don’t let the “Higher Power” concept stop you. Btw, we don’t “give up power,” we get back control of our lives, not to mention a little sanity. Don’t drink, go to meetings and talk about how you feel. Nobody has ever asked me about my personal beliefs at a meeting. Never.
Hi Lewis! Just believe that the group believes in something and it works for them! Believe in the group if that's what it takes! Surrender to win! It's the most freeing feeling ever! Take care stay clean one day at a time and get a sponsor and work the steps your life will change!
IM IN AGREEMENT THAT YOUR DRINKING AND USING CAREER HAS BEEN RUINED. Now you are ready and willing to EMBRACE the process of RECOVERY. Today I'm in YEAR 36. Got sober at 23. And I continue to choose SOBRIETY. AA has a 80 year track record. Take TRY out of your vocabulary and do AA . A pioneer in AA would say this about GOD. You think you have a problem with GOD. Just think about the problem GOD has with you. She passed away with 49 years of SOBRIETY. You can do this if you want to ad enough
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There are a lot of pathways to recovery. It was helpful for me to try several different things then I pieced together what worked for me. You can create your path.
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