Good evening everyone, I just want to ask does anybody else not going to meetings to stay clean. I realized early in my sobriety. I have 12 years, when going to meetings made me relap. Just talking about using makes me want to go do it, everyone talking about drinking what they used to do. I can honestly say using I get some stupid s*** with nothing I regret it's made me who I am today strong independent woman.
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I go to meetings atleast 4 days per week. The first two years I went to meetings twice a day. I've worked the steps twice and have a sponsor. All meetings aren't healthy or constructive. I've been with the same home group since I was 60 days in recovery. They're solutions focused and we focus on life not the past.
I believe that everyone's recovery looks different. I use 12 steps, meetings, sponsor, fellowship. I also feed my spirituality outside of the meetings, I believe that there are many paths to healing and growth, if you find joy and peace in your life and you have stopped drinking and drugging because it was ruining your life, whatever works for you, keep doing it. 12 years is an amazing accomplishment!
Take responsibility for your own actions.
The meeting(s) didn't make you relapse. You allowed yourself too.
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Good morning Amber, be proud on 12 yrs that's amazing. Obviously what your doing in recovery is working, meetings or not. I'm not one to bash any recovery program, however I myself do not attend AA meetings. I do, do the SMART recovery program. I started with AA and found SMART recovery program better for me. You just keep on the right path you've been doing and don't fret over if you should or shouldn't be going to meetings or anything else. Your doing amazing 
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What ever
But now I got 12 years and I still don't go to meetings
I had 20years sober and never walk in to a meeting,then life came up slapped me and now I’m on to hopefully another 20 years
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Thank you That's what I needed to hear
Thank you so much I needed to hear that. Some people be dogging me for not going to meetings
I went to 1 meeting and it didnt resonate with me. I left and decided I need to really get serious about changing my life if I want happiness!!! I honestly dont agree being reminded of what happened in the past. Its all creating healthier patterns and I think even healthy new habits arent much better than the bad ones. Its all just distraction from facing yourself. I spent many nights alone with the pain that comes up and 5 years later it does still come up but I at least know now to really go deep to see what beliefs came up and face them head on so they can be seen in the light and released. All of this is in the mind and most of it isnt true!!! If its said I need this to stay clean or Im recovering from this forever or its a disease then thats what it is and will be. I chose to say I made bad decisions and choose not to anymore and booze is no where in my life and I actually don’t attract others that drink either. You are doing amazing! Change your mind change your world.
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I never go I been sober for five plus years I don t like the atmosphere but it’s good for those it does work for wat ever helps ya know
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Amazing queen
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You are welcome there are a lot of different ways be you
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