Keeping current

Struggling Help
#1

I had a guy with 12 hours ask me to sponsor him. His DOCs were my DOCs. I didn’t think it would bother me but it does, a little. I worked so hard to distance myself from all that and now it just seems…closer if that makes sense.

I wouldn’t say I’m having cravings. But my brain sure is glorifying the “less bad” times.

I’m telling on myself to keep current. Holding on to a bunch of little episodes like this puts me in emotional debt. Emotional debts lead to secrets and we all know where secrets lead.

Just a clarification: I do sponsor other men. This guy just hits a little too close to home for me. I’ve decided to have one of my sponsees reach out and offer to sponsor him.

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#2

always look out for your wellbeing in sobriety first !! it’s ok to pass on a sponsee they are meant for you if it’s stressing u !!! we all glamorize using without even trying it’s tough but you are stronger :muscle:
stay solid and stay safe.
think it thru

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#3

Absolutely spot on and appreciate your honesty. Sponsorship is an absolute gift but not to the detriment of your spiritual fitness. Be well and keep sharing these thoughts. :blush:

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#4

The 12 Steps of NA are taken from AA. I'm sure you know this. Step 12 reads, Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Going to meetings is great, but the message is really that there is a solution that we can agree on. It's the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. The only way to truly carry this message to other alcoholics is to help them get through the 12 steps.

Sponsoring people takes us to a whole new level, and there is nothing to fear about helping somebody who is at the same place that you once were,
recover.

Most people don't realize it but the program of Alcoholics Anonymous is way more relaxed than it was when they first wrote The Big Book.

The Pioneers would be shocked to see what it's come to. It's very hard to find sponsors these days because nobody is willing to do this anymore. We come to the meetings as if it's a social club.

Do you know that in the old days, sponsors used to take their sponsees through all 12 steps in 4 one hour sessions?

This was done at what they called beginners meetings.
Beginners were not allowed to go to the regular AA meetings until they completed the 12 steps.

I'd say go for it. Run it by your sponsor.

#5

I can understand that I can’t even be around my girls when boozing once they get a few in I know I’m right not doing it but that first sip they take I want that so bad

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