Learning to live a sober life. Wife is light drinker 4 - 5 days a week. Tips on keeping focused on my choices are appreciated.
Not sure how drinking 4-5 days a week is considered “light”. 
Is she willing to support you or will she continue drinking as you try to stay sober? Do you work? What are your hobbies? Why are YOU wanting to not drink? That will be your starting point.
Remember or reset the thinking you’re doing this for you first. My wife and I are/were binge drinkers. I didn’t ask her to come along with me on this journey, just that I was (again). She knew I had long sober streaks before we met, and that this was important to me. It took some time, but eventually her drinking began to cool since I wasn’t joining. There were times at the early stages that she’d get hammered, and I’d be dry looking at her: thinking “this is why I don’t want to do that anymore. I don’t want that embarrassment, that need to feed the engine, that need to have and more and more.” Watching her, It was a reminder each time she got hammed that being sober is my choice, my life, and my decision for me.
It had an effect on her: she began drinking FAR less, realizing how she’s put herself and goals behind the shadow of a bottle, and began working on her own improvement without a single word from me that she should.
Remember this is for your first, and it will help keep the course.
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Katie - by light drinking I am saying a glass of wine or a beer.
Mirrors my situation. I am aware that this is for me and I thank you for the reassurance.