Learning to love ourselves

Recovery
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Alcoholism was a lonely business, even though we were surrounded by people who loved us. . . . We were trying to find emotional security either by dominating or by being dependent upon others. . . . We still vainly tried to be secure by some unhealthy sort of domination or dependence.
— AS BILL SEES IT, p. 252

When I did my personal inventory I found that I had unhealthy relationships with most people in my life—my friends and family, for example. I always felt isolated and lonely. I drank to dull emotional pain.
It was through staying sober, having a good sponsor and working the Twelve Steps that I was able to build up my low self-esteem. First the Twelve Steps taught me to become my own best friend, and then, when I was able to love myself, I could reach out and love others.

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Thank you for sharing, Michael. I needed to see this.

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#3

That’s so true took some time to let go and heal learning to love myself today is definitely different so many doors from inside start to open it feels good healthy also understanding that it’s one day that I am learning to look at all behaviors and and fix the things about myself that needs fixing like I’ve learned being humble asking for help I do that today I hope everyone has a great day :pray:t3::sparkles:

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#4

I can still remember the loneliness at times - it felt like standing in a room full of people screaming for help and no one could hear me - thank God I no longer have to feel that kind of pain

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#5

Dominant vs dependent - experienced both ends of each. I had to find me in the middle. Game changer for sure

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#6

@jennifer333756 you're welcome my friend.
BTW :tada::tada: CONGRATULATIONS :tada::tada: on your 146 days of your new life.