I have known this person for almost 30 years and she is what I consider a sister to me. We have shared the most intimate details to one another, shared many moments together. She was a person whom I used to party with and drink wine or vodka with. She has and always will support my sobriety but she is a person who still drinks, takes questionable meds when feeling sick or has an tooth infection for example.
Lately her life has become so unmanageable that it has gotten to the point to where I am worrying about her health but it’s hard to see this happen when she brings it all upon herself. I’ve starting backing away a bit and keep my distance from her because I am to a point in my life where I no longer want something like that in my life. For example the excessive drinking, the carelessness and unpredictability.
I guess I’m just wondering if I should just keep my distance for awhile, say something or just keep it as is and not rock the boat. Especially involving a good friend.
This sounds like a very tough situation to be in. I am in a very similar situation with a couple of close friends. I have not known them nearly as long as you have known this woman but it is still a struggle. You want to help but they don't necessarily want the help and you're basically just watching them self destruct. I'm interested to see what people have to say. Sorry I'm not able to be of any help in making suggestions.
I have a friend who is in trouble with addiction. I invited her to join me at a meeting whenever she wants.
She knows why I keep my distance.
I have known my friend that is like a brother for 20 years. We stayed sober together for a while them went back out together. I have always been a family person. When he would drift too far out there I would keep my distance for fear of getting pulled down with him. I tried several time over the years to talk to him about it to no avail. Right before I got sober this time, he called from jail. We made an agreement, I would stay off the bottle if he stay off the needle. Was not surprised that it didn’t happen on his end. As mentioned above, I have invited him to a meeting per my sponsors suggestion and I have left it at that. I care about him and his well being. I pray for him. It has never been easy during the times apart but if I can’t do what’s right for myself and my family, I can’t do anything for him.
Yes, that's a tough situation. My mom drank herself to death at age 46. We had her in treatment so many times to no avail. I watched her slowly wither away. It's a helpless feeling when someone you love self destructs.
I lived through that too. In fact, my sobriety made HER too uncomfortable;in order to maintain our relationship we actually didn’t speak for almost 3 years. I knew, however, that she was, and is, like a sister. I know that. Always do whatever is best for your mental, emotional,spiritual health and your sobriety
For me my sobriety is
“Attraction rather than promotion”
Be a good example of sobriety.
Thank you 
what everyone has been saying I have been thinking about it all. It has been helping a lot with the situation I’m in.
I’m in the same boat with my ex-girlfriend of four years who won’t stop drinking. Pondering the same questions, but decided to shelve the decision for now because at 67 days sober, I don’t think I’m ready for big decisions like that. So far the lack of any decision has brought me peace, which is all I want and need now to maintain my sobriety, which is A1 in my life right now.
You just helped me a lot with what you just said. Thank you