Letting go of friends

Recovery
#1

in active addiction has led to harassment and vile text messages. I opened up and expressed that I needed to distance myself due to discomfort with their continued drug use to an unrelated friend. That friend told the friends in question and my phone has been blowing up all day with the worst words you can imagine.

I haven't responded. Just block, block, block. When they message me on something else, I block. It is unfortunate that they can't respect my free will to end relationships I find risky and contrary to my recovery.

Anyone deal with something similar? I'm shocked and disturbed by their behavior.

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#2

Try to understand, it’s not you, it’s them. It’s them that are losing a using friend/buddy. Their behavior is normal when we’re faced with loss, or heartbreak, we do whatever we can to get them back. This is not the case in healthy secure relationships. Try to really understand this dynamic. In the end, you have to be brave for you right now. Brave enough to leave all of them, including your old identity. This is very important. Transformation begins when we let go of everything we identify with.

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