I struggle with the people i live with. Mainly my husband. Since I got sober its as if he has turned into this monster he has never been before. The mental and emotional abuse is off the charts. But only when he has had too much to drink. Which is often.
I know he has a lot of demons from his past that he is fighting and I feel like my sobriety threatens him. But the thing is I never was a drinker to begin with. Me quitting was not an issue once I finally got to a point of no return. (Got a DUI) then i was done. I had started drinking casually when my husband died in 2020. And i laid it down for good in January of 24.
I live in a house full of alcoholics. And have no choice but to be here. But having no support has made me stronger because its pissed me off and causes me to be determined to see this through!!!
You don't deserve to be mentally and emotionally abused.
Period. No excuse for that
Wow im so sorry to hear that. If you need a sober friend just let me know. Its nice to just talk
If it doesn’t bring out the best in you there’s no reason to do it. There has to be a way to get him to stop and get on the same page as you or it may only get worse. If his friends or family see this side of him it may be a way for him to get on the same page as you and stop this monster from coming out while drinking. I too have this monster and speak from experience, I wish you luck.
Hey Mary Beth I want you to know that I am proud of you. Don't give up! Never give in to peer pressure.
I know it sucks right now.
Do yourself one thing!
Take a good hard look. Close your eyes ask yourself what happened what it was like and what it's like now. And if you truly can't see the difference in that statement which it sounds to me like you can really clearly be able to see that statement value.
You got this. Hang in there or strong you've got a lot of people on this site that are supporting you to this journey. You reach out anytime you need to there's a lot of people here. God bless you may keep you safe and hold you tightly in the palms of his hands.
I'm really proud of you for continuing. Your journey or sobriety. It's state on your journey of sobriety, but you have to look at this if you're going to be in that home, you're gonna be in danger because you are going to be adapting to their b******* and not recovering, you literally just going to be dry drunk. If you've heard this term before throughout recovery, then you understand what I'm saying to you? I commend you for wanting to be around your family and wanting to make your parents work. But if you both of you are also doing different walks of life, he's still in active addiction and you are out of active addiction you're going to end up drinking. He will get you drunk faster than you will. Get him sober because you are not walking the same walk as he's walking. If you need to talk, I'm here, but keep your connection with God. Stay prayed up because baby, you're gonna need it. You gotta need him for the strength for the wisdom for the knowledge for the courage for the passion and compassion. To be able to live for you and walk away from things that are hurting you. Because if he is still drinking and he is still getting abusive mentally and emotionally. It's on it gonna get worse because if you look. Around the highest point of view you are his enemy. Now jaw have nothing in common because he's still in his active addiction. I love you and congratulations.
Marybeth, kudos on your sobriety. I had to protect my sobriety and emotional health with extreme prejudice. Without a 2nd thought, I’d move out of that place asap and cut those drinkers off at the knee caps!
I need to add that I have been diagnosed with severe health issues that are so debilitating that I can’t work to the point I can support myself. I am currently stuck in a rock and a hard place. I am not a gluten for punishment. I would much rather be miles away from this entire situation. But sometimes we have no choice .
I am going the day after Christmas to have a port a cath installed to keep receiving treatments because my veins are shot. I have autoimmune issues that are causing my colon to die off. It’s a complete mess. I deal with constant exhaustion. Liver disease that has nothing to do with my short drinking stint… it’s all autoimmune. But they think I have other issues which I am still testing for because I am loosing blood somewhere.
I, again am not a gluten for punishment. I am just caught in a situation I can not get out of at this moment.