I was with this guy for 7 years and we both went into rehab and now he's being all weird and I don't know how to live with our him
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Have you sought counseling?
Do you attend meetings or have a sponsor?
I completed treatment as well and they usually have resources like aftercare and many other options that also welcome family as well. Adjusting with sobriety may seem "weird" but we are all just learning on this journey and he may be struggling while transitioning.
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Don't forget that doing what YOU need to do to stay sober isn't selfish, it is you putting in the work to heal and recover. We have your back!
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That's hard, however in recovery You have to work on You. Sometimes people get clean and realize they don't like their significant other. Use your higher power and let it go..
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After getting sober people tend to decide to move to what they were addicted too or allowed in the past doesn't align with who they are now! You need to be selfish for yourself too! Find out who you are the new sober you! Learn to use coping skills, find sober friends 
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@wilma428606 worry about yourself and your sobriety. Don't even give this fool free rent in your head.
You can't live without him? It's real simple your sobriety comes first. You work on you not him.
Ok the 7 years was wasted time. Somewhere out there is a real MAN looking for you.
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Wilma, I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. I found out that my addiction has no bounds. I can become addicted to people, places and things. Once I got clean, my addiction came out in girls, sugar, working out, business, crypto, and all kinds of crazy things.
Now that I recognize my addiction by that hook in my gut and that unreasonable urge, I can rise above it.
The 12 steps and lots of service are the keys to my freedom and balance. Emotional sobriety is balance.
I’m here if you want to talk
I mean this is a loving manner: our job as addicts is to remember how to withstand difficult emotions again. I just had to go through something very vicious, similar to yours, but we were engaged, had tried for a baby and had miscarried three times. He ended things with me after two years by ghosting me. Literally never actually broke up with me—just left me and never came back, ignored all my calls and messages until I had to accept it. Definitely not seven years though—my heart goes out to you. I couldn’t get out of bed, couldn’t eat, couldn’t even shower or take care of myself for MONTHS. Life can be such a bi***. But this journey is around YOU. Not them. YOU deserve someone who loves you deeply, and is PRESENT—you deserve someone who loves you the way YOU love, and maybe that’s difficult to picture right now, having someone who treats you the way you would treat them. But it’s real and there are so so many ppl in this cruel but insanely beautiful world—don’t give up now! You just put yourself through rehab, you are on the up and up! Right now, it’s not about him, it’s about YOU, and learning to care for and love yourself again without substance, and that is a JOURNEY. You need all of your focus on YOU right now more than ever!!—because YOU deserve it. All the blessings in the world to you, my friend. Good luck.
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Yes I go to meetings and have a sponsor
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