Life is easier for me when context and character exist in our values and our actions. Not just myself but the world around me. I shape a lot of beliefs about others intuitively, and the important part of that is to remember it is coming from me.
I usually can be specific and perhaps those ideas are not entirely accurate, people are more than just one thing. My opinion matters to me and it is fine if that opinion of a person doesn't jive with everyone.
I separate myself from ppl I feel are dangerous and destructive to my wellbeing, happiness, and my livelihood.
For example, some recovering alcoholics will not be friends with anyone who drinks alcohol. Some recovering alcoholics will not be friends with specifically friends who were in AA but are choosing to drink again.
And some Alcoholics like myself, don't care if someone drinks.
Those drinking won't jeopardize my sobriety therefore they are not dangerous to me. The longer I am sober, the more I am beginning to realize I don't want to be friends with ppl who make drinking a part of their lifestyle.
Whether it's going out to a club and drinking, or celebrating birthdays drinking, or drinking as a pastime or a means to have fun. It's weird to me.