Living Alone

Living alone while in the grip of my addiction was a bad thing in that I had no one to see, no one to make me feel ashamed of when I would wake up on my days off and start doing shots of liquor right away.

After leaving rehab, where I was only alone while sleeping, I was worried about this. However, it also made me fully in control of not having any substances in my home, so there was no temptation. I did have someone come by my place while I was gone to clear out any alcoholic drinks.

I've been out of rehab for almost three months now, and it does get lonely here at home. I got lucky a few days ago, and was able to get a puppy, and he is keeping me on my toes. He's only had two peepee accidents since being here, and I don't feel as silly talking to him as I did talking to myself.

I've never been a spiritual person, and all of the spirituality in the different programs is lost on me. I find a very large AA gathering once a week, and listening to the guest speakers to be helpful. My twice-a-week group therapy sessions help as well.

The puppy helps for the time in between meetings, so I'm not alone at home. It's company, responsibility, accountability, and love, all in one package.

What new responsibilities or hobbies have you found that distract you, or help reinforce your sobriety?

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Thanks for sharing your story. And that puppy is friggin' adorable!

Adding new hobbies and interests is a great way of breaking out of your old self and living the life that you want. I have gotten really into cooking over the years, figuring out how to make great dishes without using booze. I have also gone back to school to fulfill a lifelong dream of mine. And working out has become an invaluable tool in my sobriety (and my teammates are an invaluable part of my network!).

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I used to cook a lot, but cooking for just myself is a lot less fun.

I do have a new sugar addiction that I need to curtail. I would also like to start a workout regimen, but I'm pretty lazy. I wanted to start at a gym, but having never worked out before, I'm a bit embarrassed, and worried about using the machines incorrectly.

I live alone too so I get it about cooking for yourself. And don't get me started about the sweets. I have not met a chocolate dessert I didn't like!

And I hear you about going to the gym and feeling like a newbie. So maybe start small. Take longer walks. Maybe try going for a jog. There are also a ton of resources online.

And don't be afraid to ask for help.

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