I'm doing the work in recovery – staying sober, employed, attending meetings, and actively participating. Despite this, I'm finding it difficult to connect with others and build meaningful relationships, both romantic and platonic. Im wondering why it's so hard to find love and friendship during this time.
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Hey Buddy, Same here. I've had a hard time connecting in recovery. Retired old timers, homeless newcomers. Very few my demographic. It's hard.
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For me personally, when I gave my life to God & began attending church. That's where I found my people. I have THE most amazing & supportive church family EVER! God saved my life when He led me to the Latter-Day Saint Church 
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It's funny cuz I was just coming on here to post about the loneliness that comes with recovery. Being in the game there's always someone around. Even if their meaningless relationships. But clean and sober is more isolated. Good to see I'm not alone (at least not in my feelings) Keep on keeping on. I relate to your post
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Tommy, lots of us experience loneliness. Please know that this too shall pass. Keep going to meetings and participating. Expand and go to other different meetings and participate. Do service and expect nothing in return. You will definitely make new friends and build relationships worth having.
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You’re doing all the right things, and that takes so much strength.
Recovery can feel lonely at times, even when you’re doing the work. Building meaningful relationships, whether romantic or platonic, takes time and patience, especially when you’re in a period of deep personal growth. The growth, personally should always come first.
Sometimes others might not understand your journey, or you might be protecting your energy as you heal, which is okay. Keep showing up, keep being authentic, and the right connections will come.
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We find whatever we are looking for.
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"what you want, wants You as well"
Right?
Sure! Lol. Here's my experience in recovery so far: I have gotten in my own way too many times and was my own source of suffering because I was addicted to my story/trauma/having to be right. Nothing changed until I changed. It took time. Years. Over a decade. I still fall into the mental traps. It gets better, then it gets worse. I've accepted that I will die alone and that nobody will ever truly love me, and I'm ok.
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"the best way to avoid disappointment is to not expect anything at all in life"
Instead of expecting your just accepting... So your never gonna be disappointed, but if love were to come to your doorstep would you shut it out or accept it?
You don't have to answer here openly. And I'm not trying to call you out. I respect your comment I'm just curious. @emilie299698
I found one person to hit meetings with.... and then slowly over time my group grew little by little...
You're people are out there. Don't give up on finding them
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