No dogs! I already all my life with dogs, I am retired! Ha
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Hang in there! It won’t always be this way! I myself enjoy being alone- however some days I do crave conversation and companionship— when that happens I text with a few people who make me happy, and than do other things to occupy my time. Like writing or reading. Anyways, I hope you find something more to fuel your soul!
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What are your interests? Any hobbies? Go meet people that love the stuff you do, find events and groups online, reddits, fb groups. Say what you’re into at meetings, see if anyone else is into the same stuff.
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Have you tried meetup.com? And do you have a car? Meetup has a ton of events and even sometimes sober ones but they might not be in your area and require a drive. The benefit of not drinking is I don’t mind long drives anywhere since I’m not scared of everting a DUI ever!
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Maybe join some groups online or maybe look for activities to do outside of your town? And you can usually make friends by join in on volunteer work.
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If you’re lookin for a companion you could try dating. Lots of free sites to use. Bumble, plenty of fish.
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I live just outside the state Capitol but I’m in the same boat as you. Here, I just find it next to impossible to find others, even in Recovery, that I have any thing in common with. Our values and beliefs are in direct opposition politically, morally and spiritually. I feel like a fish out of water here. I spend 99% of my time alone.
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Yeah I am right there with ya. I’m in a rural tiny town too and am having issues finding irl friends. Now on Facebook and online stuff I’m just fine but know the feeling of not having a life. Hang in there. Just look for some strong recovery people in your meetings and just try talking to them.
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I felt the same loneliness that you are feeling. Maybe volunteer for something or join something? Even it’s a little far from you your retired…Start a Mtg in your community…
Wish you weren’t so far…I would hang out with you….Vermont…spent a lot of weekends up there for many years….Ski House years…Near Stratton.
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Skot! What I’ve going through is the loneliness emotion. I’m ok with being alone for the most part. For some reason I end up with this overwhelming feeling of loneliness which then leads me down the road of sadness and depression.
What do I to combat this feeling? Well one is go to meetings. Call other alcoholics in the program. When in public I look people in the eye. Smile at them. Make conversation with them. It’s not always easy.
Then there is the intimate part of loneliness. Going to a meeting is great for human interaction but it stops once we leave. This part is where I struggle the most. I miss having someone to hold, to say I love you and missed you today. Mostly because when I did have an intimate relationship I didn’t do this enough. I took that relationship for granted. What this is teaching me is that the next relationship I can no be present with more compassion and respect for my partner.
I’m on a dating app. It’s hard to know who’s behind the app. Seems like not a lot are ready or it’s all robots on the other side. I joined YPAA in my area (young people of Alcoholics Anonymous) and this has given me the opportunity to meet more people in the program. I do have to travel to go to these events but I’m finding it’s worth it. I’ve also tried Meetup App. I did one event. Unfortunately a lot of the meetups are around alcohol. I’m getting better in this area as for being around people who drink. It’s still tough and I really don’t want to be around it.
I’ll pray for you brother. I was told to write down an ideals list of the relationship one would like to have. Then we have to live up to them to attract that person.
I’m currently working on this list….
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Yes, I wish this was an option
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100% I posted something similar yesterday. I hoping joining this app I can make few new friends. And also I tried other apps like meetup
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I go to the library. I find it can be either social or solitary. They also have alot of events. Also if there is a community college they usual have programs and day events.
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Have you made any real connections or built real friendships with anyone on this app? I suppose funds play a role in actually making a point to meet one another, but I have been able to meet some and it's a nice way to actually see the person in person. In addition, it gives you something to look forward to... the anticipation alone can provide comfort 
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Just having good conversations with like-minded is helpful. Even people outside the rooms of recovery.
I love texting people as well.
I do a ton of socializing on my Instagram.
But that’s because I’m a content creator, and it’s a part of my business.
Other than talking to my kids, I’m feeling that loneliness as well.
Before being epileptic and not able to drive anymore, I used to LOOOOVE hanging out at Barnes & Nobles.
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It is free, funds-wise I meant meeting in person as if the other person/people are out of state or not within driving distance from one another to make a day trip sorta, kinda thing 