Loneliness

Recovery
#1

OVERCOMING LONELINESS

Almost without exception, alcoholics are tortured by loneliness. Even before our drinking got bad and people began to cut us off, nearly all of us suffered the feeling that we didn't quite belong.
AS BILL SEES IT, p. 90

The agonies and the void that I often felt inside occur less and less frequently in my life today. I have learned to cope with solitude. It is only when I am alone and calm that I am able to communicate with God, for He cannot reach me when I am in turmoil. It is good to maintain contact with God at all times, but it is absolutely essential that, when everything seems to go wrong, I maintain that contact through prayer and meditation.

From the book Daily Reflections.
Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All rights reserved.

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#2

I’m on a group chat from a bunch of guys from the AA meetings I go to. One of my brothers just sent this earlier this morning. All of these recovery oriented activities keep me mindful of my choice to stay stay sober today. On a personal side note, I have issues with the “God” word. My first reaction when I hear or read this is to say F this sh!t! For me, I have to pause a moment and remember that I can substitute that word for my own personal definition of how I interpret a higher power. I choose to be tolerant of others beliefs, and tolerant of the the “language” used in AA. This is not always easy, and I get tired of having to always have to go thru thinking this “God” all the way thru for it to work for me. However, it is working! I’m grateful it’s working. Perhaps in time, I will get more comfortable with that “God” word.

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#3

Yes, I am 4 months sober and am very lonely it seems all I do is work meetings therapy and sleep. The past few weeks it’s been hitting me really hard, constant crying spells out of no where and for no reason. I have tried sober groups, the hours collide with my work schedule. I can’t stop looking even though I’m tired and feel defeated by the process of developing a sober social life.

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#4

Christina, early on in sobriety I attended tons of meetings. I found groups of all different kinds. There were a few that were very active outside the rooms. Poker games, cookouts, bowling tournaments, group hikes, breakfast and dinner clubs all helped to connect me with other sober people. I hope you can find what I did. Keep coming back and just don’t drink no matter what.

#5

My sponsor is a native of the southwest. Dating back 2000 years. They use “creator of the universe” “spirit of the universe”Their conception is different and something I appreciate due to my own hangups with the religion of my upbringing. Basically, I know there is a god and it’s not me, seems to be the important thing for me to keep in mind.

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#6

Well said! This is all that is necessary for me to work the steps and my program of recovery. I’m not here to debate with others on my beliefs or their beliefs. This is the beauty of “a power greater than myself”. My ego is most definitely not the highest power

#7

BTW Lee, I haven’t been on the app in a while and it’s good to “see” you again. I always appreciate your comments and insight. Thank you for carrying the message.

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