Anyone else dealing with loneliness now that you are in sobriety?
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You know it 
Pretty common occurrence apparently. Literally all of my friends drink or use , so what ya gonna do 🤷.
You certainly aren't alone.
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Unfortunately it does happen , but with time it gets better
I definitely feel this.
Yes.. i hate it because I feel like I’m depending too much on peoples presence
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You have to change people places and things, and I am so thankful for my sobriety, but that meant leaving that old lifestyle behind, and I feel like people now find me boring. It is difficult!
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Really trying to find an avenue to make new friends it has proven to be difficult
I did this at 24 years old. It was traumatic and depressing…but so was my addiction. The fellowship of AA is helping me tremendously this time around. I didn’t stay connected the first time, and I paid the price by being lonely. I chose to not drink and feel left out. This time I’ve got a lot of good friends.
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Yes, I struggle so much with it… came home from Detox/sober living and realized all the ones in my past aren’t who I thought they were and saw that it’s just as hard coming to terms with life and realizing I can’t go back to the people I cared about.
There are so many people, places, and things to do in recovery. I suggest finding like minded individuals. At meetings they usually have an event book for sober functions . Idk where you are located but that’s where I would start.
Very much so
Totally! I’ve had to rid myself of people who are bad for my recovery; family even. I feel very alone. I live in an area where addiction is very prevalent. Hard to make friends
Yes
Yes and no. Yes when I sit by myself and wait for others to reach out to me. No when I take the initiative and reach out to others and attend meetings.
Extremely
Ann, loneliness is common and will be there simply because you are human…it is a good practice to find something to keep you occupied… a hobby or interest that brings you joy and sparks a new sense of excitement. If none come to mind ….begin to gently feel your interactions with your day…they will appear….i always sought people in the program, and conversations whenever possible…Keith Kayle
I make it a point to talk to at least one person in recovery every day. That is in between meetings btw.
Sometimes loneliness provides us the opportunity to look within. Find our inner strength and become our new self. Of course we need others. Surround yourself with people that are like minded committed to recovery. I already met someone real on here I’m sure you will too!
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Yeah it seems to be something we all go through. Going to AA has made it easier since you make other sober friends. I still have my friends that drink but it took me a while to be able to trust myself to go around them while they drink
I agree with Tory, I believe for me, alcohol was a form of “entertainment” but really while ingesting it I found it to be more lonely. It’s really your perception.