Glad to hear it 
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I understand. Today I’ve been so depressed, I have all theses feelings coming out of no where. Before I would try to mask how I felt with alcohol but I’m sick of doing the same thing and not getting any results. I’m so sick of being sad. I came across this app because I was looking for sober groups on IG, so thankful for the ad that popped up. I’ve already gotten some great advice. We got this and if we can get through today we’ll be ok.
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Same here. Make amends to those loved ones alcohol pushed and show them through actions that you are sober and a new person. It also helps to make new sober friends and join groups that do positive sober activities like hiking and exercise groups. There are plenty of such groups on Meet Up. I just got back from going on a mid-day hike with such a group. Besides the camaraderie, the exercise will lift your spirits.
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I think I’m just not really feeling anything ? Like I know I’m overwhelmed because My mind won’t stop thinking about things that are bothering my but I’m having trouble expressing my emotions? Like I should probably feel sad or something but I don’t know how I feel.
That’s a great idea, I will try to make amends with those people that my addiction pushed away when I’ve gotten farther in my sobriety. Thanks for the advice!
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Feel your feelings, maybe write them down, and let them go. Cry. Let out all the ick so good can come in.
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I have issues with codependency. I guess that’s why depended on alcohol. I’m struggling with being alone and over compensating. I need to learn to relax. I’ve spent a lot of night crying and I get overwhelmed easily, so I completely understand how you feel. Maybe we become friends and get through this together. I know how hard it is and how much it sucks.
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I should start a journaling, that’s another great idea. I need to get rid of theses feelings in my head. I’m gonna try to do that tonight.
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And yes, depression and especially the ups and downs in early sobriety sux. On top of the world one moment and in the gutter often with no explanation for the turn for the worse. I believe it’s just a part of your brain healing from all the alcohol or drugs you were using. Mine is alcohol. I’m only at 53 days, but have noticed things leveling out and positive momentum building so many areas of my life now that I’m sober. With the downs, I just focused on it being something temporary and let it pass and did something positive like exercise, work, o listened to music, rested, or guided meditation to distract me.
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Crying also helps me out a ton.
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It’s very common.
For me I found that I drank to cover up all my feelings and emotions. Good and bad. Once the drink was gone, I felt these things and thought; what the H !
It’s just reality, and the heavy impact of these feelings and emotions will balance out in time I found. They’re just heavy now because they have been suppressed so long.
This is just my experience. It got better the longer I stayed sober. ODAAT.
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That’s great 53 days, congrats! I’m so thankful to everyone and all their advice. Definitely going to start working out more. I would like to learn meditation as well.
Girl, I’ve cried so much… I began to feel like I was drowning in my own tears. This past year has been a roller coaster for me. I just realized that alcohol has contributed to a lot my pain. I want to be happy for myself, so I can be a better mother.
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It’s so enlightening to hear that it will get better. The longest I’ve gone without drinking is 24 hrs. I’ve never really wanted to quit drinking but looking back I see that alcohol is the center of all my pain. I’m so ready to take control of my life and not be so codependent on anything or anyone!
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You got this
Mourning the version of yourself that caused so much wreckage in your life is healthy. Feeling sorry for yourself is lingering in a victim mindset and pointless. I was taught to think of my body as a cylinder. And to allow emotions to flow through my body starting from the top of my head and have it travel through my body and exit at my feet. Once the emotion has exited my feet let it go completely. I try to keep this in mind when I’m going through intense stuff.
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Girl I am right there with you the struggle is real. I have chronic depression that makes life extremely hard every day and I am tired. I am also upsetting people by my choices and that doesn’t feel good. We are in this battle together.
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That’s a skill I need to learn, letting emotions go. That’s a great way of putting that.
Yes, I’m dealing with the same thing. I upset everyone with my emotional depression. Alcohol definitely amplifies that for me. I need to learn healthier ways to deal with my emotions and not sit in self pity.
Yes, it did get better for me as I worked the 12 steps.
For me it wasn’t so much about taking control as realizing that I could not control and enjoy my drinking. I now understand that I am powerless over alcohol. As long as I don’t drink it, my life is manageable.
And yes! It was so important for me to look at every major negative situation in my life and see that they were ALL related to alcohol. Even if not directly, if I honestly thought about it they were indirectly related in some way.
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