So here's the thing I'm getting sober I'm almost there. I go to my doctor this week tell him everything that I've been doing and get some help. But here's the thing I'm in a 17-year relationship and I'm getting clean for the first time in my life because I've been on narcotics since I was 11. I don't know me I don't know what I want I don't know where I'm going I don't know so would you stay in a long-term relationship if you were so unsure of everything I love him I want to be with him but I have to love myself first
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That’s a tough one and only you may be able to answer that one. And I think you did. I would say Love yourself first and work on yourself as you get to know yourself. Doesn’t mean you have to separate but it’s good to Communicate and let your partner know where you are at right now. Prayer for guidance also helps.
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We are we're openly communicating about everything for the first time in a long time I think we just lost ourselves along the way and I lost myself in the relationship and my addictions and it just I got lost someone finding my way out and I don't know if he's going to be the person that I'm going to be but that's just too bad cuz I will thank you for your thoughts it means a lot
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Tough one !!!
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#AlwaysPRAYFirst!!! Don’t forget to have God take the Lead - I hear he likes to drive as opposed to riding passenger in this vehicle called “life”…
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All you can do is work on you day by day and stay true to your partner. Sometimes we look too deep in to things instead of just going with the flow and this could be a good thing you’re getting to know yourself and your partner and knowing the new you and it could be a good thing and it might be a bad thing it might grow apart you don’t know and you can’t worry about it you got a dance through it peaceful and easy because you’re dealing with the hard stuff getting clean give yourself a break!!!!
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This is what the 12 steps are for. Finding out who you are and what you're going to be. Do them, they'll provide the answers you seek in due time. Good luck.
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Yup that happens!!! I had to move away cause I put myself first!!! It will take its toll but we got to prioritize ourselves first if we really want to get better!!!
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Thanks so much
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Is he sober? That could be the thing you base your entire decision on.
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Yes he doesn't touch any of it
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Hang in there, the first 90 days are terribly confusing about our own thoughts stick with it you'll be happy
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It really is thank you very much appreciate it.
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Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today that's what the big book says
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Some people don’t want you high but also don’t want you sober. Love yourself and you will find someone who loves the real you.
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Thank you
I asked my loved ones to read chapter 8 in the big book, every couple weeks. It helped a lot, and re-reading it was important to remind
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Can’t love any other person until you love yourself
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It’s a hared one but I had to do it. He was a addict to didn’t want to get clean so we had to support it’s very hard
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