Hey, just casting a wide net for support. I’m going through a divorce and I’m just so sad. Im definitely using alcohol to cope. 
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This week, the reason is a divorce. What will it be in a couple months? And then after that? We will ALWAYS have reasons. There are lots of cool people here. And lots of them at AA meetings. Please go, and stay.
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I lost someone I loved to an overdose years ago and I used&drank to cope with it and I absolutely 10/10 don’t recommend it. It doesn’t make anything better
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I completely understand where you’re at. I decided in 2020 to divorce my wife of 12 years, and while deep down I knew it was the best move for me, it was soul crushing. The most pain I have ever felt in my life. Leading up to that decision and all while the divorce was in the works, I drank myself to sleep every night. It was f’ing near impossible for me to be sober around her or by myself with all the thoughts, feelings and emotions involved.
If I had the strength to go through that sober, I wish I could have. I would have mentally healed so much more quickly, and spared myself the near death experience of DT’s, severe withdrawal and pancreatitis which involved 8 days in the hospital.
You can do hard things without using alcohol to cope. You have it in you! You’re starting off right by reaching out. Let us know what you need.
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Thank you, Jeremy. Have you had some relief from the most severe grief?
Absolutely. My divorce was final last April, and I got sober in August. 15 months divorced, 11 months sober, and I can honestly say that I am happy again. It took me a long while to laugh and smile again, but I got there. I’ll always have the scars from that experience, but they’ll never bleed again.
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It isn’t the help you need. It’s not helpful at all actually. It’s a poison that you ingest. Reach out and be honest and get through it. I have faith in you.
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A lot of us drank to cope. It only led to more reasons for coping and more drinking. Stop as soon as you can. Today. If you don’t you will look back and wish you did.
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Keep your head up!
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Divorce was so much harder than o thought. Time will make it better but there will still be rough spots for a while. The first months struggles were getting used to a totally new life, maybe a little shame, maybe a little emptiness. The struggles now are accepting my ex-wife’s new partner. The kids parties and holidays. It’s still a struggle but the hard times are more spread apart but I know the progress I made was bc I’m sober. If I were drinking I’d still be wallowing away like in the first days. I hope this helps some. It definitely helps me to help others and bring a little hope. I relate to your situation
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I’m just over a year sober and it was a little longer ago than that when we decided to get a divorce. My drinking wasn’t why we got divorced but once we decided to break it off I drank uncontrollably. It was miserable. I was pretty sure I was going to drink myself to death but I couldn’t stop. So I went to detox (twice, about a month apart) because I knew I needed to be put away in order to stop. The second time through detox I thought I would go to rehab after but I went home instead and attended zoom AA meetings all over the world, all day long, everyday for several days/weeks- as many I could find. Haven’t had a drink since. I still go to meetings for sure. The divorce was necessary unfortunately but what started as “holy fk I have to get a divorce AND stop drinking?!?” turned in to “I GET to get a divorce and stop drinking.” Not being married to her anymore and quitting drinking might be the biggest blessings of my life. 2021 turned out to be a beautiful turning point in life. Sorry for the long winded thingy. God bless
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