Loosid Sober Tip of the Day April 17

Sober Tips
#1

We are as sick as our secrets.

This is a common expression used in recovery. It is important to feel our feelings and share with people what’s going on with the challenges in our lives.

What we hold inside builds up like a slow boil which at some point will manifest itself in some way, shape or form.

If you are struggling, share your struggles today.

If it’s something that is personal, be sure to share it with a trusted, close-mouthed friend. In 12-Step programs this is normally reserved for a sponsor.

In other settings, it may be more suitable for a professional.

What you need to know is that asking for help is something you should never be ashamed of but rather one to be proud of as you are taking steps to work through your challenges.

It is an act of power and courage.

Free yourself today by letting out what is inside of you and ask for help.

You are worth it.

How did this tip resonate with you? What is your tip of the day? Share with the community below.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#3

I have discovered It isn’t easy to ask for help. I don’t know why it is so difficult for me to do. By holding it in, whether it be anxiety, anger, or sadness, I know I need to let it out, it’s very difficult for me to all for help. Does anyone understand where I’m coming from? I would appreciate any advise on this matter.

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#4

Insightful tip to be mindful of this Easter Sunday as we’re working to push through these challenges we’ve been faced with. It’s time to let God rise up and dive in to arrest any of these binding chains so we can let free our love and praise to arise glory in his name. Resurrection power today! No longer bound our darkness, he has given us freedom

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#5

I understand way too much exactly what the weight of it like and means for us to call out to ppl and just want to manage everything by myself. Pride has always been my feat to wrestle with and I feel like others shouldn’t be in on all of my inner seeded issues and obstacles I am enduring. It still burns me to this day but the good news is I get better in small strides with as much as I can bring to the table at any given moment

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#6

I also struggle with asking for help with all situations. I stuff everything then have anxiety which caused me to drink .. I keep trying different things to help with anxiety while feeling the feelings , meditation, exercise, take a walk.. but sometimes hard to push thru.. I pray for all this to pass, I too wonder how long it takes..

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#7

I struggled with asking for help before sobriety. My reasoning was because I’ve asked for help from what I considered friends and was either told they couldn’t or they didn’t help up to my standards. So I quickly developed a copping mechanism which involved me figuring out everything by myself. This thinking caused me to isolate. Then I would drink the emotions away. I was always quick to help others. I would abandon my family to help others. All for selfish reasons. Either there was expectations of getting something I wanted or drugs or alcohol was the reward.
Today I ask for help when I need it. If the one I ask can’t I ask someone else. This is why we need to have support group of 5 or more. If one isn’t available then we have 4 more friends to reach out to. Ask for help! It could be as simple as calling your doctor, advice nurse, church member, or family member. Who ever it is you ask, if they can’t try someone else. Keep trying. Someone will help.

With all that said, don’t forget to help others. Once we ask for help, receive it and are on a spiritual journey it’s time to then help others. Especially when they ask. It’s ok if you can’t help them but maybe just maybe you know someone in you group that can. That’s a good way to be of service.

#8

Yes, absolutely. Part of one of the reasons why we are addicts/alcoholics is because on some level we don't really don't like ourselves. And for me, it was hard for me to ask for help because I did NOT think I deserved it. I hated myself so much that I thought I was unredeemable. That I deserved everything I was feeling. That was really hard for me to get past. Therapy REALLY, REALLY helped. Taught me to actually live one day at a time. Totally easier said than done. But that's where I really started my recovery. Now I'm not saying I still don't struggle because I do. But totally less frequent than before. And I've learned ALOT of tools in therapy where I can take steps to counteract the bad feelings. This is a disease like anything else. So you absolutely need it. Surround yourself with loving people who support you and have your back. Really important also. You will be in my prayers

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#9

Amen brother. Really dig what you said. God bless you and have a wonderful Easter. You will be in my prayers

#12

So true
Sometimes just sharing my fears and worries with a freind helps me get over my anxiety. When I feel anxious I live in my head. Living in my head is usually not a good place to live :grin:

#13

Yukon