Loosid Sober Tip of the Day April 25

Sober Tips
#1

When we look for the good in others, we discover the best in ourselves.

This quote, by Martin Walsh, is one of the most important aspects of living a life of emotional sobriety.

It is very easy to see the fault in others. Finding the good in others requires us to completely remove ourselves from the equation and look at the other person from an objective viewpoint.

When we are born, we operate with no faults, bad intentions, or hidden motivations.

There is no greed or jealousy. We have not been told how we should act nor how others should not act.

Everything we think we know has been taught to us by experience from either what we have heard or seen.

Just for today, remove yourself from the equation and look at the person or persons you currently resent.

Find the good in them. Try to understand why they may act the way they act and do what they do. So much of what we do is done from fear, insecurity and lack of self-esteem.

Remember, everyone started in the same place. Concentrate on the good in those people today.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#3

I agree with this but what makes it difficult is there are some people I just don't like and that needs to be ok. These people bring nothing, good or bad to my life, they are just people I don't care to be around.

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#4

Great message; it helps ratchet down apprehension for me…thanks!

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#5

I too agree with you. The more I dive deeper into spiritual living I can sense and feel those that are not on my energy waves. It’s not that I don’t like them or they are bad people it’s that our energies don’t match. In the past I would have looked past this phenomena and would focus on things like; what they look like, how they talk, what they have or want, the music they listened to, the hobbies they liked or how they dressed.
I’m seeing now that those things are all external. They don’t mean much anymore. Look and feel for the energy vibe they give off. This will be a good indication if they are on the right plane as you.
In AA we like to be Kind, loving, patient and tolerant of all things earth.

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#6

It’s very easy to overlook just how powerful this statement is. As products of the human condition, we are subject to powerful mental and emotional blocks created solely from the power of suggestion formed from our surroundings and exposure to culture.

Removing yourself completely from an equation is one of the most difficult challenges you’ll ever face. However, once you’ve mastered your emotion, it is also one of the most freeing experiences you will ever find yourself a part of. Martin Walsh is correct when he points out that our bad intentions and hidden motivations are formed through life experience, not in-born and hereditary.

Really concentrate and really try what is suggested here. What you experience is akin to a literal on/off switch for the nagging pit of resentment we often feel for these individuals. In a lot of cases, you even feel for them and mourn the tribulations that had to exist to form such an individual. This is the very definition of rising above, or being in “it”, not of “it.”

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#7

I love this sober tip. It just reminds me that I can constantly work on myself everyday. Removing myself or my feelings makes it less personal and less about me. Tho,following this tip in all ways,promotes self growth,it also reminds me that its not just about me but about everyone else and their feelings and journey and growth. I try to always push myself to be different than I was yesturday,better,stronger. So,caring for others does the same and modeling that role,others too will pick up on it and if not then at the least see who I am wanting to be.

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