Loosid Sober Tip of the Day August 10

D -E -N- I -A -L

Don't Even Notice I Am Lying.

So many of us take such a long time to enter recovery because we are in denial. The pain of getting honest with ourselves seems too much to handle and so we lie to ourselves.

Because of this, our disease progresses until we either die or reach such a level of pain that we get the gift of desperation to reach out and ask for help.

It is important to understand that everything in life worth anything requires work.

The first part of any work is an honest assessment of where we are and where we want to go.

It is also important to look at what we have done wrong in order that we can recognize those mistakes, so we don’t make them again.

We make amends for the mistakes we have done to free ourselves from our wrongdoings (more on that tomorrow).

Just for today, wherever you are, make a commitment to get honest with yourself.

If you are not sober, do you need to be? Write down all the things you have done when you were not sober that you feel were inappropriate. This will give you something to look at on paper.

If you are in recovery, are there things you are doing that are disconnecting you from your recovery? If so, what can you do to get back on a good path?

If you are on a good path, share your experience what helped you move from denial to getting honest with yourself.

There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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I have learned to be completely honest with myself and my shortcomings. One of the biggest things is keeping a journal so each day I can review how my day went and any potential issues to honestly deal with.

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I have learned to be completely and transparently honest with myself and with others. I even let them know they may not want or like what I am going to say (which goes for myself as well), but at least I know in my heart and my mind that it is the truth! Goodbye DENIAL!

I do too! I am a huge journalist. I have been journaling throughout my whole life starting at my youth and growing. I come from a very abusive childhood from my father figures (boyfriends included, LOL). So, I used journaling and poetry to get through that. Have a blessed day!

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Great read! And so true! Thanks!

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I am an alcoholic and I have done a lot of embarrassing, mean, stupid and dangerous things while under the influence or black out drunk. I am sober 6 weeks and I alone cannot stay sober. I pray every day for strengt and honesty. Bless you all.

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I have never gave sobriety a chance in my 20+ years of using, but this last time in treatment something just clicked and I knew I had to take all of this knowledge and better my life.. I am 97 days sober and would not be here if I was not honest with myself and stuck to these things... 90 meetings in 90 days, Journaling to see where I am at in the day, alot of reading and writing to see how bad I was in my addiction and the things I lost and relationships I ruined... I am happy in life now...

This time going into treatment I realized that I had to do things differently, and a lot of that was facing the truth of my history with addiction going all the way back to childhood, which I never acknowledged before now. It's helping to talk to people about it and tell on myself. I know I love lying to myself but when I talk to people I respect I feel obligated to be honest. So I've been telling counselors and peers about my struggle and it forces me to be real. Denial is a sickness but I am taking action to get better and face my demons.

I feel the same way. Six days sober. First day again tomorrow. God is good and I rely fully on Him for my sobriety

A lot of times I wanted a record of bad things that wouldn’t have happened without the drink, how many times we’ve been lucky. Well, there’s a project waiting !

Sounds like the 4th step to me. Well I’m honestly working my resentments now. It’s taking a few days for me to finally get honest with myself. However, I did get honest with myself earlier on in sobriety. I actually got honest with myself way before as I completely lost all control of my life. Had reached out to my wife(ex now) for help. Ultimately I was mad at her for what she did. But when I look att the resentment, I can see how my role in this situation and what my mistakes are. That’s how I get honest. Looking at all my resentments and seeing my mistakes in them.
Checking my stories to see my mistakes. That’s recovery!