Loosid Sober Tip of the Day August 17

Sober Tips
#1

And the wisdom to know the difference

The last two days we discussed the first two parts of the serenity prayer. If you haven’t had the opportunity to read them, simply tap the back button now to catch up.

Once we are willing to accept the things we cannot change and have the courage to change the things we can, we need to always operate life from one of those two places.

Think of these places as two columns.

Any time we are faced with a perceived challenge or life event (which is always), think about which column the event belongs in.

If it is in the acceptance column, there is no work to be done. It has happened, we have accepted it, and no energy needs to be wasted.

This leaves 100% of our energy available on changing the things we can.

Once we have the wisdom to separate the two, we often find how much extra time we have, once we leave the column on the left alone.

Let’s look at an example of how many of us operate.

We relapse. We CAN’T BELIEVE we relapsed. We obsess over it. We get our ego involved. We get depressed. We are afraid to reach out and tell others, we fear people will judge us…

The list goes on and on and is beyond exhausting.

It is at this very point that we need to STOP. It happened. It’s in the past. Put it in the acceptance column and look to the right.

No one in the history of this planet has ever been able to bring back the past and place it back into the present.

The moment you put it in the left column, you free up 100% of your time on the right column.

What can you do?

You can go to a meeting, a support group, call a friend, reach out to your sober network. Simply put, you have the courage to change, you take action and get back on course.

Today, as you go about your day, move events into both columns. Place what’s necessary on the left in the acceptance column and focus your energy on the right. That’s wisdom.

Then wake up the next day and do the same thing.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#3

I will use this information.. great reminder to stay sober.!!

#4

Wow. Never thought of it involving struggles with the past. This framed the prayer in a new way for me.

#5

I love this! I have been operating my life from this perspective and what a difference!

#6

Never thought of it this way. That is awesome and very useful

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#7

I'm definitely going to make the 2 columns and use it every day

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#8

Sad that we do obsess with relapse. It made everything so much worse when I just needed to accept it. I do this now, live one day at a time. Can’t obsess with yesterday or tomorrow, just for today! :heart:

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#9

I was literally just crying out to my higher power (God), asking him to give me the “wisdom to know the difference” in this prayer. And here it is. Now I can incorporate this in my life. :pray:

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#10

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#11

I actually did write the serenity prayer on a post it along with a couple of other positive notes and put them on my mirror so I can see them and say them every morning after I get ready for my day! It’s really a good way to start your day and a positive note… no pun intended! Lol :joy:

#12

Yes! So many of us myself included feel so bad and beat myself up emotionally and mentally when I did! Now that I’m in such a better mental health state, have really opened up and truly found my Higher Power as I know Him and continue my life as a Sobriety Coach with my social media platforms I changed my outlook and perspective about relapse and what it means to me and try to help my clients do the same. We are not failures by any means. We are addicts who have to live our lives one day at a time!

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#13

The many times I’ve relapsed, I’ve always been hard on myself. I’ve now learned if something happens, learn from it, accept it, don’t do it again and get back on the sober train.

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#14

Sometimes in certain circumstances, I break the Serenity Prayer up, just as you’ve done in the last 3 days…. Just cuz I don’t know if it’s something that I can’t/won’t accept then to have the courage to change things I can…. But personally the last part of this prayer has the potential for me to have to sit & think abt it…. The WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE….. sometimes it’s easy to know what u can change & what u can’t & it’s just coming to terms with accepting whatever that may be!!! But other times just having the wisdom to know the difference & that could lead me to the 10th step & promptly admitted I was wrong!! Of course after pondering over the Serenity Prayer & then having the wisdom to know the difference!!!